Benefits of Entrepreneurial Coaching & Mentoring

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I talk with the same woman at least three times a week... 

She needs support shifting from employee to becoming an entrepreneur.

She doesn't have a plan on how to create the income she needs to survive, to grow her business, she's going to take the leap. 

She doesn't know how she will have the extra money for self care as she steps into this intensely transformational time of her life.

She doesn't have the proper legal coverage, the proper liabilities, the proper set up for her business, book keeping and accounting, assistance.

She also doesn't have a clear brand, pain point she is solving, messaging to speak to her ideal client, she thinks she can figure this out as she goes.

She doesn't have a plan in place for relationship building, collaborating, marketing and sharing who she is and what she does. 

She doesn't know why she's seeking these entrepreneurial endeavor, how to manage her feminine and masculine energy, how to harness her basic design to her benefit. 

I've seen entrepreneurial endeavors bring about the same inner chaos as other major life events  (disease, divorce, death, addiction, job loss, new job, marriage, new baby and new home). I've seen women struggle through every step. I've seen women not have the funds in order to energetically allow her business to grow. I've seen women claim they cannot afford a coach because they so financially strapped. This kills me as a coach. Because I've been there myself.

I know for a fact that when we invest in ourselves financially, that speaks volumes not only to the Universe, but also to our inner, neural programing. Our commitment, planning, organization and follow through elevates us to the next level. 



Entrepreneurial coaching and mentoring is for you if:  

You are committed to your entrepreneurial journey and to your success

You want to base your business on a solid foundation of personal values, vision and purpose

You are looking for accountability, support and a framework for achieving your goals

You feel it’s important to honor your introvert energy and set boundaries

You know that creating a sustainable business depends on authenticity and alignment

You want to define success in your own terms

You have all of the ingredients and need to determine how much and in what order they are put together to make the best possible recipe for success

You are ready to raise the bar and bring more prosperity (cash money) into your life

 

What is entrepreneurial coaching and mentoring? 

Entrepreneurial Coaching & Mentoring is meant for the person who is committed to creating a thriving, successful business. I focus on your business, what’s working and what’s not, determine your intentions, your human design, your goals, create an action plan and also take into consideration your spiritual path and journey. We focus on what is going on INSIDE of you first, and then how to move that OUTSIDE into the world. 

Inside:

We discover your vision, mission, purpose, values/themes/key words, definition of success, authority, passion, intention, goals, spiritual path. 

The relationship between you, your business and other areas of your life; commitment; boundaries; personal energy management; sources of power; priorities taking into consideration your entire life. 

We identify and remove barriers (old and limiting beliefs) to your success, identification and additional of motivating influences (updated and aligned beliefs). 

Outside:

Why does your business exist and why are the one to do it? Identification of the pain point you want to solve. Your solution and approach to the pain point. Your intentions for yourself, clients, and a larger community. Your ideal clients and niche. The core message of your offering and service. What are your offerings and services and how do they solve the problem pain point.

What free products and what paid services do you provide and offer. How do you want to market and build your service, product and community? How do people interact with you, learn about you and your offerings, and engage with other community members? Clarifying your brand and your authentic voice. Your ideal scene for social media, promotional and relationship building and collaboration.

What are your financial goals and strategies? What do you need to live? What do you need for self care? What do you need to grow your vision and brand? 

In addition to all of these topics, we dive into your personal, emotional, mindset and spiritual journey as you move through being an entrepreneur. Learning about your soul's journey as the entrepreneur. 

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The benefits of coaching and mentoring are so exciting. My mission is to serve smart, experienced, spiritual women who deeply desire to transform their lives, love what they do and do it from an authentic place. 

Set up a discovery call here if you are ready to have someone by you every step of the way, someone who has traveled that path, someone who can provide wonderful vendors, assistants and support as you build and expand your business to the next level. 

Here's to all the bad ass women who are out there creating and making magic happen! 

With love, Gwen

Self Forgiveness

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Nobody is perfect. We are human. We make mistakes. We forget self care. We don't prioritize rest. We forget to ask for help. We forget to keep up with our personal finances. It is okay not to be perfect. But what happens is we judge ourselves when we aren't perfect. Here's how to free yourself of self judgment. 

There is a Buddhist quote that talks about anger. "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

This is true for self judgment, self doubt and self hatred. When we are judging ourselves and others (politics, capitalism, you name it), as bad, wrong, not good enough, comparison, we are simply showing ourselves that we are angry. When we are angry we are burning ourselves. 

Self forgiveness is the practice of putting down the hot coal, the remedy, the healing. 

But do not confuse self forgiveness with allowance. Self forgiveness is not condoning toxic or unhealthy behavior, from yourself or others. Self forgiveness is putting down the hot coal so that we are not burning ourselves anymore. Self forgiveness is letting yourself off the hook. 

I first learned about self forgiveness through the University of Santa Monica in 2005. They taught us this concept of forgiving ourselves for judgments, for old beliefs, for limiting stories about ourselves, life and God. Self forgiveness was one of the many tools I learned in that school that still supports me on a daily basis. 

Self forgiveness is not about what we did or didn't do, what we said or didn't say. It is about forgiving the judgment around the action or the thought or buying into the limiting story about ourselves, others, money, love or God. 

Try it for yourself. Say the following outlaid followed by a judgment you have about yourself or others:

I forgive myself for being...

I forgive myself for thinking...

Now try saying it this way: 

I forgive myself for judging myself as...

I forgive myself for buying into the belief that...

Did you notice the difference? You don't have to forgive yourself for being a certain way or thinking a certain way. That in and of itself is another judgment. We are the way we are. We think the way we think. When we forgive ourselves for judging that we are bad or not enough for being the way we are, is freeing. When we forgive ourselves for judging the way we think as wrong, is healing. 

What is also important about self forgiveness is following up the forgiveness with what is true. The truth is you are doing the best you can. The truth is you can choose differently next time. The truth is you are enough just as you are. The truth is you can love yourself no matter what. 

Because the truth is...

When we forgive ourselves (and others) we create space, and in that spaciousness the truth about who you really are, is revealed. 

Comment below and let me know what you think!

Are You Earthing ?

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Are you earthing on a daily basis? In addition to breathing, earthing is one of my secret weapons for recharging, restoring and revitalizing in a world that never stops. 

As you read this blog, pause for a moment, take off your shoes and socks, and go outside. Walk to the grass and set a timer for 5 minutes. Stand there. Bare feet. Eyes closed. Inhale and exhale. Slow down your breath. Imagine yourself releasing all the stress and overwhelm through your feet and Mother Earth collecting and composting it for you. 

When you come back inside, check in with how you feel. Do you feel lighter? Do you feel calmer? How does it feel to be clear? 

More about Earthing...

Being isolated from the Earth by non-conductive materials such as rubber and plastic (our shoes), as well as plastic, laminate, and asphalt (flooring surfaces) can drain our nervous system. However when we make direct contact with the surface of the Earth our bodies receive a charge of energy that makes us feel better, and fast.

Just as the sun gives us vitamins, the Earth gives us to us also. In addition to being a surface to walk, sit, stand, play, and build on, the ground gives an eternal, natural, and gentle energy to our human systems. Earthing can improve health, energy, and the quality of your sleep. Although you can’t see the Earth’s energy, some people can feel its warm and pleasant sensation walking at the beach or on a stretch grass or hiking and hearing the leaves crunch under their shoes. 

Science of Earthing...

As I shared above, most of the shoes we wear in today's culture are not ideal for maintaining or increasing our energy. The reason is that the often non-conductive rubber soles that we were nowadays insulates our bodies from the earth and its juicy energy. In ancient times, people were barefoot or wore shoes with leather soles that became conductive when they were wet with sweat from our feet. Walking barefoot or leather soles allows our feet to be intuitive, conductive systems that ground and charge the body. When we wear non conductive shoes we are disconnecting ourselves from a natural resource of energy. 

What happens in the body is that we have lots of cells with electrical charge to them. Our technology emits lots of positive electrical charge, where as nature, like ocean water, emits negative ions. 

Simply put, when there is an imbalance of electrical charge, the excess searches for another electron to balance them. In the process they steal from healthy cells, damaging them. The damaged cells need to be removed, so our immune system sends white blood cells to oxidize and destroy damaged cells. This process causes chronic inflammation which is the cause of many health disorders. This is compounded by the fact that free radical-generating substances are all around us: in fried food, alcohol, tobacco smoke, pesticides, air pollutants and more.

Our ground and earth has an infinite supply of free electrons, so when a person is grounded, those electrons naturally flow between the earth and the body, reducing free radicals. Earthing and grounding is reduces inflammation and can even prevent chronic inflammation and dis-ease states. 

How to do Earthing...

When I was working in corporate environments, flying every week, I used Earthing products while on my computer, on the plane, and sleeping. Now that I work from home most days, I make sure I go outside at the start of my day, in the middle of the day, and at the end of my day. 

So now its your turn. Go just outside and tap into the natural rhythms of the earth and its healing. Notice how you feel. I promise it will uplift your mood, calm down your nervous system, give you a dose of calm and put things into perspective. 

Earth provides enough to satisfy every man’s needs, but not every man’s greeds.
— Ghandi

Going from Employee to Entrepreneur

I’m convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance.
— Steve Jobs, co-founder and CEO of Apple
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Going from employee to entrepreneur is a drastic change, and typically will not leave you feeling as cheery as I am in this photo. 

The shift from a regular paycheck to creating your own will allow lots more to RISE inside of you than you could imagine. 

Going from employee to entrepreneur not only creates change for you, the individual, but for your partner (if you have one), your family and your friends.

Your experience of this transition will offer you the opportunity to follow your dreams, but also offer you the opportunity to take a hard look at your inherent personality, your defaults, your old operating systems, your coping skills, your weaknesses, as well as where you will need to grow in updated beliefs, mindset, patterns, actions and your faith.

I have supported lots of individuals as they made this transition from employee to entrepreneur, and I have coached myself and received coaching through this transition. There are differences between the industries, the businesses and the personalities. But there are similarities in how we transition and build. Here are the integral points to keep in mind. 

1. Get clear on your WHY

2. Get solid on who you ARE

3. Get even more clear on your FAITH

4. Get rigorous with your BOUNDARIES

5. Get prepared in advance for the TRANSITION

If you'd like to learn more about my online program for employees that want to become entrepreneurs let us know below!

 

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I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game’s winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that’s why I succeed.
— Michael Jordan, NBA Hall of Fame

Owner versus Victim

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I first learned about the "Owner versus Victim" mindset from Steve Chandler back in 2010. It was such a startling and simplified way to distinguish in the nuances of my language and where I was residing in my mindset, that was determining my actions. What I also learned from Steve Chandler's distinctions is that ownership versus victimhood can be applied to all areas of life, not just work, money or my business.

When I discovered Steve Chandler's Owner versus Victim I was pregnant and preparing to be a single mother. As I became aware of the distinctions, I could clearly hear myself saying each of the statements. The most prominent distinction in my life at that time was, "I get from" versus "When I get through". 

I heard myself in conversation saying, "when I get through this pregnancy, then I can be...." (fill in the blank, happy, peaceful, relaxed, better, lighter). What I realized was that I was being given an opportunity to look at what I could get from this pregnancy versus waiting until I had the baby. 

It was then I understood the concept of "its about the journey, not the destination". If I waited for the destination, I would miss out on all the learnings, growth and evolution while pregnant that were meant to prepare me to be a mother once my baby arrived. I started looking at the sometimes physical discomfort of being pregnant as a blessing and asked myself, what am I meant to get from this, and each experience became an opportunity to connect with my body, myself and my baby in a much deeper way. I used the fear of being the sole provider for myself and my daughter as a place of purpose and inspiration. Each decision I made became a practice in slowing down, pausing, attuning. Becoming an owner of my life became a daily, often moment to moment, ritual of spirituality and consciousness in human form. What I also learned was that there were many areas that I was already an owner in areas that maybe a few years prior I was a victim. The distinctions gave me the opportunity to celebrate all of the inner work I had done up until that point. 

So, here is your opportunity to look over the list and see where you are already an owner, and what areas you can shift from victim to empowerment. 

Owner Language/ Mindset:

  • Uses life as a platform for building
  • Gaines from each event
  • I want to
  • I choose to
  • I intend to
  • I want to do this now
  • How can I do this?
  • Can I use this to Improve?
  • What can I do?
  • We
  • Team Based
  • Volunteer
  • Commitment (decisions)
  • Just Chooses to be Happy
  • Brings happiness into the relationship
  • When there is a problem – I am the problem
  • I am the solution
  • Who do I need to BE?
  • How do I need to BE?
  • Busy – Fun – Focus
  • There should not be problems
  • Accepts responsibility
  • Is Proactive

Victim Language/Mindset

  • Life uses me
  • I just have to GET THROUGH
  • I should
  • I ought to
  • I am obligated to
  • I have to live up to others expectations
  • I’m stressed
  • I’m overwhelmed
  • I’m swamped
  • Why does this happen to me?
  • Who can I blame
  • They
  • I isolate myself
  • I am forced to
  • Committed (feeling)
  • Happiness is based on people, Places and Things
  • Takes from the relationship
  • Do not want to think about problems
  • Problems multiply
  • Why am I the way I am
  • What do I do?
  • Is Reactive

If you have any questions on how to apply these distinctions to your life shoot me an email gwen@gwendittmar.com or comment on the blog. I look forward to hearing from you!

With love, Gwen 

Using your Menstrual Cycle to Empower and Energize Yourself

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Trust me, if you'd told me several years ago that I'd be structuring my monthly business projects and calendar around my menstrual cycles around the moon I would have said you were nuts. Although I had a deep affinity and connection to nature, I didn't realize the power it could have in my business and finances. It was hard for me to conceptualize and let go of the old way of running a business because I had been so successful in it...but I was also disconnected and burned out and ready for a new way. Breathwork cracked me open to trust in this exquisite dance. 

In the full and new moon circles we get to release the old ways of being and doing, let go of the things that no longer serve us, the limiting beliefs that stop us, block us, keep us small, stuck and disconnected from the natural flow of abundance. The beauty of the circles is that we each need to have a sacred space to be real and true. We shouldn't force ourselves to be positive all the time, because it's just not realistic. We all have insecurities, blocks and emotions. I see it daily in the powerful executives and entrepreneurs that I serve as a coach. When we can be real and authentic about what's happening in our mind and emotions, be witnessed by other women, then there's space to reclaim what is our true nature. We breathe life into that, as if fanning the flames of the open heart. We get to show up in the world in a successful, authentic and gentle way. If you are curious, skeptical, interested, claim your self and your spot here...

How to Feel Calm When You Are Busy

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Whenever we catch ourselves saying we are too busy, that we don't have enough time, or there's too much to do, this is a red flag that we're loosing our power and drifting into victim energy. Thinking we don't have enough time, leads us to feeling overwhelmed and then our physical reaction is anxiety, stress and tension.  Feeling busy and stressed doesn't come from our lives, it comes from our minds and our choices. Here are a few tips on how to bring peace to the mind, feel more calm and start owning your time and life.

1. Remember that you have a choice. We can choose to be busy or be focused. We can choose to be overwhelmed or purposeful. We have a choice. The other day I had a lot of tasks to complete. I also wanted to take a walk and get some fresh air. I decided I had a choice. I could stay inside, hunkered behind my computer and feel more stressed, or I could take a way and get some sunshine and feel lighter. The I saw there was a third choice - to address the most important items while I walked outside. When I wasn't "should'ing" myself to do something, and when I wasn't "obligated" to do something, instead saw I had a choice, I felt a lot more pleasure. I was able to check my emails, answer my voicemails, post on Instagram and was inspired to share this blog on my Instagram stories. At the end of the walk I connected with a neighbor I'd never met before and we scheduled a date in the calendar for a mastery session as she embarks into a new phase of her life. I returned home, completed the last task and was able to spend the remainder of the day at a business lunch meeting and picking my kids up early from school. That day I had two choices in the morning - view it as a victim of time or an owner of my time. 

2. Bring intentionality to your life. When you are clear about your intention behind any and every action you take, then you bring attention to your choices. Using the same day as above, when I made the choice to be an owner of my time and my day, and saw that I had a choice about how I wanted my day to go, I set the intention to complete my tasks and enjoy time outside in nature and be of service. My experience mirrored my intention. All of my intentions manifested and integrated into my calendar and I felt calm. 

3. Pause and take a breath. When we are feeling busy, our breath is shallow. When our breath is shallow in our head, it keeps us stuck in our mind. Feeling overwhelmed and stressed isn't a bad thing. It is simply feedback. It is your body's way of saying slow down, pause, and breathe. When you notice overwhelm, stop and breathe. As you inhale, breathe over the count of four. As you exhale, double the count by breathing over the count of eight. Breathe this way three times. There is scientific research that shows this type of coherent breathing, resets our nervous and circulatory systems. 

Oprah, Beyonce, Bill Gates and you all have the same amount of hours in the day. When we become strategic with our energy and output, we create time and space to welcome and usher in our natural state of calm and peace. 

Wednesday Winning - Belinda Woolfson

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Belinda and I met through the wild world of Instagram. After meeting in real life over turmeric bowls and bone broth at Honey Hi, and a few coaching conversations later, here we are!  I can't wait to share this extraordinary woman with you. Belinda Woolfson is a kundalini teacher, life coach, filmmaker, producer, and soon to be owner of co-working Sacred Space. 

Historically, Belinda spent many years as a gypsy traveling, learning a wide variety of healing modalities, and studying under accomplished coaches and spiritual teachers.  She has a background in gender competency and is dedicated to gender equality and female empowerment as a coach, storyteller, teacher, and facilitator.  She teaches meditation and kundalini yoga and produces a monthly live spiritual storytelling show called Sacred.  She is also opening a collaborative workspace for women geared towards a more feminine approach to business that will be opening its doors in LA in early 2018.

 

What inspired you to start your business?


I started my business because I personally felt so lost in my twenties.  I have always felt connected to purpose, but I had no idea what I was supposed to be doing.  That confusion was painful.  I was not surrounded by people who talked about things like purpose or having a calling, so I went in search of the so-called 'perfect career'.  I tried many different career paths but nothing felt quite right.  It wasn't until I returned to school for documentary storytelling that I realized my search had been surface level and superficial.  I slowly began to discover that we find our calling by deeply connecting to ourselves and the world around us....so that became my priority for many years.  I experienced such a deep meditative peace when I finally accepted my purpose was to simply be myself...that I could release the enormous pressure I was putting on myself to figure it all out and begin to trust the process.  And now I get to hold space for other women to do the exact same thing, align with what they're supposed to be doing instead of forcing it! 

 

How does spirituality impact your business? 

Spirituality is very much the foundation for my business.  I've always loved Brene Brown's definition of spirituality, “Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.” 

For me spirituality has always been the path of becoming the best version of yourself and loving yourself throughout that process.

 

What challenges and learnings have you encountered owning your own business? 


Endless challenges and learnings! Fear constantly came up in the process of starting my business.  But the difference between where I am now and where I was even two months ago, is that my trust continues to grow.  Trust in the process, trust in the universe, but most importantly trust in myself.  Trust has really been the catalyst that has allowed me to shift my perspective from fear (and often paralyzation) to love and excitement. 

 

What three important tips you would share with a woman who is just starting a business? 

If you have a feeling that you are supposed to be doing something, it's real, believe it.  You know who you are becoming.  Trust that. Stop forcing things, keep working, and surrender often. Make it fun....ask yourself as often as possible, how do I make this fun?

 

What would you tell the younger you who is just starting her business?


It's not supposed to be miserable.  You are so supported.  Trust yourself.  You know when you are operating in your magic, use that as your guide! 

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?


Acceptance.  I was looking for acceptance from outside of myself for a long time.  Someone to look me in the eyes and say, I see you and you're everything you think you are and more.  Basically I was looking for permission to finally put myself out into the world confidently, you know use my voice, take up space.  But I finally had to realize that the person I imagined giving me permission and satisfying acceptance was NEVER going to show up.  The only person who could do that for me.....was me.  And that was hard because I had to take a look at all the stories I had been carrying around for so long that kept me from fully believing that.   It's something I'm still working on.  But I've gotten better at recognizing when I'm standing in my own way.  And in case you're also waiting for someone to say it to you....YOU ARE EXACTLY WHO YOU KNOW YOU ARE BECOMING! 

 

What would you want to see or learn more about from my business? 

I love what you're doing!  Definitely the moon circles!  The moon and astrology plays a big role in my life.

 

What project are you most excited about right now?


I am so excited to open Sacred Space, the collaborative work space for women.  The space is everything I believe in!  That we don't need to hustle, we can align with our purpose and flow.  We don't need to do it alone, we can be supported and loved by community!  That we don't need to be cutthroat, we can embrace abundance!  And that the whole process of starting or running a business can be fun!  

Say Goodbye to Pressure of Resolutions and Hello to the Pleasure of Reflections

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I have some thoughts on New Year Resolutions, and as usual, they go against the popular belief. I have never been a fan of resolutions because I feel like they oppose our inner rhythm and set us up for failure. 

First, the lofty goals of losing weight, eating healthy, being more adventurous, improving your relationship, creating more money, don't have to wait until the start of the calendar year. We can invest in any of these goals at any time of the year. This is why I love coaching - clients invest in what they want and their lives change instantly. If there is something you want to change, if there is something you want to experience differently, schedule a call, book a session, there's no need to wait until Jan 1. Let's start today. 

Second, resolutions are often filled with pressured and restriction versus pleasure and expansion. What is fun about being pressured, restricted and punished. There is a reason why it is better to reward children for optimal behavior than punish for undesirable behavior. When goals are filled with restrictions, pressure and misery, we are setting ourselves up to fail. When goals are filled with fun, pleasure and feeling, we are setting ourselves up to win regardless of the outcome. 

Next, if you want to set intentions, regardless of whether you are a male or female, the best time is during the New Moon each month. The New Moon is when there is no moon in the sky. In January the New Moon falls on the 16th. If you are interested in attending my New Moon Breath Circle on January 16 at WMN Space in Culver City, please register here. Just as we plant seedlings in the dark soil of the earth, when we plant our intentions in the dark sky of the New Moon, there's plenty of space for those intentions to grow. When we set intentions in the New Moon we align our human life with the rhythms of our ancestors and of nature.

Last, taking action towards our goals in the middle of winter does not align with our innate rhythms. In ancient cultures, winter was a time of hibernation, restoration, reflection and introspection. In modern culture, while technology has created immense value and globalization, it has also created an energy of opposition and disharmony because we aren't honoring the natural rhythms as readily. The best time to start taking actions on goals is in the energy of spring or summer - not in the dead of winter. How are you supposed to slay when your DNA wants you to rest? 

So instead of placing pressure on yourself to lose 20 lbs, find your soulmate, or make a million dollars, I invite you to step into the pleasure of what it would feel like to be in love with your body, intimately know your own soul, and start vibrating like a millionaire. Below are four powerful questions to ask yourself today or on New Years Eve. These questions are different than your traditional "resolutions" and instead align with the energy of winter, restoration and reflection. These questions because they slow down the pace and create a sacred space. Before you start, light a candle, burn some incense, say a prayer, meditate, or do whatever practices make you feel whole and holy. 

1. What did I love about 2017?

This will give you feedback about what you enjoy and what brings you pleasure and a hint of what you can do more of moving forward. 

2. What did I dislike about 2017? 

I love this question because it tells us what takes away our joy, what keeps us from slowing down and experiencing pleasure. 

3. What would I omit or outsource, based on what I disliked? 

Please know that in answering this question it doesn't mean you have to start creating plans or taking action on outsourcing or omitting things from your life. Sometimes reflecting creates the insight on what people, places, patterns and things keep us stuck and what we could do in order to break through self imposed glass ceilings. 

4. How do I want to feel and experience life in 2018? 

I work with a lot of women who have everything they thought they ever wanted and they still don't feel happy, peaceful, balanced or content. Often times we become obsessed with doing, and addicted action because let's admit it, being busy is easier than feeling all the gunk underneath. However, just like those clients who have it all but are still searching for something, if we can first connect to how we want to FEEL and EXPERIENCE life versus just the external goal, then there's neutrality and freedom for the goal to actually manifest. More about that in my upcoming Inner Success and Manifestation Workshop March 2018

I am sending lots of light to you not only on Jan 1st but on all the days of the year because it only takes one choice to start living a life that you are proud of and receive immense pleasure from.

Comment below if this blog was useful and what other types of topics you'd like me to share! 

What To Do When You Have the Holiday Blues

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While it seems this is supposed to be "the most wonderful time of the year", many people, feel depressed. I can resonate. For years I felt a dark during this time of the year but never understood why and forced myself to smile and fake it. Why did I feel so sad and heavy when society told me I should feel happy?

Over the years of sobriety, self-development and self-discovery I learned that there were so many contributing factors:
 
1. Stressful end-of-year deadlines...I remember feeling this when I was working in corporate America and pharmaceutical research. One year in particular stands out. I was working in an oncology research center on Christmas Eve because the holidays weren’t a factor when we were administering life-saving therapies to cancer patients. I was also Fed Ex’ing time sensitive data on Christmas Day. While I was grateful to be doing such important work I was equally wishing I could have a break from the nonstop grind. 

2. Looming expectations of New Year's resolutions, goals and taxes....Yep. As crazy as it is, there's research that shows we have an unconscious pressure around making New Years resolutions. There’s also an unconscious guilt that we feel for not meeting our previous year’s resolutions. And research that shows an internal discord because we’re spending more in this month than any other time of the year but there’s also another tax season is on the horizon.

3. Memories...of old family dysfunction are common for many. The holidays often involve lots of parties, alcohol, drunken mishaps and growing up in homes with alcoholic parents. This can stir up all kinds of emotional heaviness that hangs around our mood and depletes our physical energy.

4. Sugar...With all the parties and socializing also comes poor eating, white flour, sugar and carbs, which all unfortunately contribute to mood swings, irritability, brain fog, fatigue. If you have a predisposition to addiction or depression, eating these foods will only enhance the blues and anxiety. In a culture that is saturated with sugar, I know it is hard to resist the temptations at every corner, but there's so much research out that shows direct correlations between sugar and depression. 

5. Darkness...This one has been the most interesting for me to embrace. With the increasingly cold and dark winter days, it’s easy for the holiday season to feel not-so-merry and bright. As we approach the winter solstice, we are entering the darkest days of the year. In the past I forced myself to be social, outgoing and extroverted. But then I remembered that darkness isn't bad, it is just an invitation to be more introspective, take stock of our year, what we liked, what we didn't like, and starting holding energy and intentions for how we want to be and feel in our lives moving forward. 

If you are struggling, there's no need to do it alone. I am here. I am offering offering individual Reiki and Coaching sessions to support YOU through the holidays. Visit my website to schedule your session now through January 30th. 

60-minute Reiki Sessions, in-person or virtual: https://www.gwendittmar.com/reiki/

60-minute Coaching Sessions, in-person or virtual: 
https://www.gwendittmar.com/1-1-coaching/

How to Balance Work and Personal Life

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Most of the clients that I sit with have the same desire - how to find balance between their work and personal life. Here are three tips that I encourage for that million dollar question that most people have: 

1. Create boundaries - Be rigorous with your boundaries. Most of us are inundated with tasks that are not aligned with what we truly desire. Then we are left feeling like everyone else and everything else takes priority over us. It is a state of victimhood that leaves you out of balance. When you have clarity around your calendar, when you prioritize your time, when you schedule what is important to you first and then build your other responsibilities around that, you will organically create more balance.

2. Say "no" - We have been trained to say yes, to be helpful, to be accommodating, to be nice. But saying yes when we really mean no depletes our energy and zaps our self trust. Learning how to say no to what is not important to you will energize you and your life and as a by product, create balance. This means when someone asks you to lunch, but you really don't want to, practice how to say no from love. At first it might feel uncomfortable, but like any other muscle, it will get stronger and easier. 

3. Intention - When you have the intention to have balance, your life will follow that energy. Our word has power and when we become mindful of the words we are saying, the vibration our lives are riding directs how we experience our days. Experiment with saying "I don't have time, I don't have balance, I'm busy" and then "I am balance, I am in balance, my life flows with grace and ease" and see how you feel. You can also experiment with saying those different phrases and test the strength of your muscles. It can be fascinating to see how much stronger your muscles are after intending positive statements. 

Let me know what happens once you start incorporating these tips into your life! I'd love to hear from you!

Wednesday Winning - Jane Mayer

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Jane Mayer is a shamanic healer and ceremonialist who has studied with indigenous
healers in the mountains of Peru, the Amazon, and the highlands of Ireland. For
several years, Spirit called to her from a well of deep grief and physical pain, and
she has chronicled her mystical personal healing journey through extensive
poetry. She works with sacred cacao, dream work, sound healing and plant
medicine to support individuals and communities in transmuting their grief and
pain into embodied soul. Her deepest mission in this lifetime is to use these
ancient practices to heal the modern world, specifically women, families and
young people ages 8-18. To learn more about her work, visit www.janeislistening.com.

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business? 
It’s so funny to contextualize my work in that question, because it really
doesn’t feel like a “business” per se. But I think that’s what it feels like to do work
that is fully in alignment with one’s soul mission. The work I do is my sacred soul-
seed service to this planet. And so, it’s my offering, my gift, my life force, in a
“job.”

Honestly, starting this business wasn’t really a plan I had. It was a calling from
Spirit. Several years ago, I was working as a teacher in public schools in Los Angeles
and I went through a period of extraordinary grief. I had been dealing with a long-
term battle with autoimmune disease, and then on top of that, I faced death of a
loved one, infertility, and divorce in a very short period of time. When that well of
grief and surrender opened up in my life, spirits starting coming to me in my
dreams, showing me other dimensions, showing me my sacred soul work, the
nature of time, ancestral wounding, and so much more. I would wake up every
day at 3am with spirits and energies in my room. And I had no idea what to do.
Eventually, after a lot of support from human guides, I quit my job to travel and
learn from indigenous healers around the world. And Spirit started asking me to
do work to help others. I began working with sacred plant medicines in
ceremony, using the sound of my voice to heal people’s energy fields and
helping others use their dreams and other metaphoric dimensions to interpret all
of the ways that the spirits try to contact us. That’s the super short version.

How does spirituality impact your business? 
Spirituality is my business. I do shamanic healing work—which, in short, means
that I open up sacred spaces for multidimensional healing. I work to clear
ancestral, physical, spiritual and emotional blocks in people’s bodies that prevent
them from living their fullest expression of this particular (and past/future) human
life. So, really, every day, my work is to show up, clear my channel, open my heart,
ground my body and act as a conduit for Spirit to bring healing to our world and
to its people. The spirits—and the Great Spirit—are my bosses, my teachers, my guides and
my greatest fans. And they are yours, too!

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your
own business? 

I know that this is something that people struggle with a lot—and I have moments
too, when I forget how supported and loved I am. In my humanness, I think I
have to figure it all out on my own. I forget that I am fully loved and fully
supported in my soul work by the Spirit that called me to this work.
But truthfully, as soon as I remember that I am simply a servant, the fears go
away. I know that the level of service I provide for both the Spirits and the
humans I see has so much worth. They have called me by name and asked me
to do this work, and their highest priority is to make sure I am supported so that I
can continue to serve. They have no interest in me doing anything else.
I also remember that everything in life, just like in the natural world, comes in
cycles. The moon waxes and wanes. The flowers bloom and die. There are
months where I serve cacao every week and months where I don’t serve at all.I
trust that all of the ebb and flow is for my highest good—and the highest good of
those I serve.

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?
Oh, wow. Great question. My younger self would never have believed that I was
powerful enough or worthy enough of doing this work. Even a few years ago, I
couldn’t have believed that this would be my life. But to the woman a few years ago who sat in the midst of seemingly neverending grief and darkness, I would say, “You’re on the path, dear one. Every shadow you confront will be your greatest ally. Every demon you love will be your
greatest strength. And you are SO MUCH MORE than you have ever allowed
yourself to be. You are worthy—and you are powerful—and you are right where
you are supposed to be. Trust them—and yourself. You know what you are
doing.”

How do you balance your clients, professional projects and personal
commitments?

Honestly, this is beginning to show itself as an area for growth. Because I don’t
work for anyone else, as a boss, I realize that I really am the work I do: that my
beingness is what I offer. So my writing, my voice, my song and my heart is what
people pay me to give. The Spirits don’t have a time clock—they talk to me in the
night, while I’m driving, while I’m reading a book, so its hard to categorize
“balance” the way most people might when they think of a work/life balance.
That means it’s hard to siphon off Instagram or Facebook, or not answer
emails—or not do some form of work every day of the week. Finding that balance
is a never-ending area for reflection and growth.

I also have surrendered that my work comes in waves - I’ll be back in the States
for 6 or 8 weeks at a time, and there will be a lot of work to do here. And the
paradigm here calls for it. And then I’ll go travel and study -Peru, Ireland,
wherever - for a period of 4-8 weeks, and that’s my time to receive and listen to
the messages I need for the next phase and to attend to my own personal
healing.
So, I guess the answer is that I have had to tap into the rhythm that really works
for me - even though it is very different than what most people think a “balance”
should look like. I keep myself pretty hived off from the world when I’m here
working - I spend a lot of time alone, in nature, in sacred space, because it
requires a lot of space and time alone to stay connected to Spirit. And I’ve built
my life to allow that space.

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?
There was a period of time when I was clear about my calling—and unclear and
unsure about what to do with it. How would I really support myself doing this
work? What would I be offering to people? What exactly were the spirits calling
me to do and be? I was in the fire – and it was very, very uncomfortable, because
I knew I couldn’t go back to my old life. And I wasn’t sure how to move forward.
I cried. A lot.

And then I listened to the next step. What was the next thing they wanted me to
do? A friend gently told me that the most compassionate thing I could do for
myself was stop sitting in the pain, in the fear, in the discomfort, and just walk
forward. Just go.

And so, I listened to the messages that they had given me to write a curriculum
for teenagers and build my website. And I cleared my life to spend a month in
solitude to do those things.

I don’t even use the curriculum yet, though I know someday I will. What
happened in that time, and in that deep listening and reverence for the sacred
soul message, is that I birthed myself. I still don’t even know how it happened.
But I just listened to their guidance. And I submitted to their love. And I just took
the next step and lived in trust.

What project are you most excited about right now?
So many! I’m getting ready to take a group of people down to Peru to do medicine work
with local healers in the Sacred Valley—we have a group in December and again
in April. I am so in love with the shamanic traditions of Peru—and with the plant
medicines. They have pulled old trauma, beliefs, disease and pain out of my
body and soul like no other modality I have ever used. I truly owe them this life I
am living. It is my great honor to share them with so many people this year.
And I have an incubator in the works for next year—combining plant + herbal
medicine with ceremony, shamanic healing and cognitive coaching. 10 women.
10 months. 10 ceremonies. 10 rooted voices for a new world. I’m so excited
about this offering—and about supporting women in really rooting their work in
the Earth and in their soul mission. It is time for all of us to stop spinning around
trying to make money and fit into the moulds society has laid out for us. Our
sacred soul work is so needed right now. And I can’t wait to wake 10 women up
to that like the Spirits woke me. To learn more visit www.janeislistening.com

What to do if you have insomnia

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So many clients share with me their struggles with insomnia. As a former insomniac I can relate. Sleep is so crucial to optimal health yet so many of us are deprived. I've outlined what I've learned over the past ten years in regards to insomnia. 

 

1. Test your hormones

First thing I would recommend is getting a test of your hormones, which could be attributing to your insomnia. Your cortisol, melatonin, DHEA all regulate the circadian rhythm (sleep rhythms) which is controlled by the hypothalamus. If these levels are out of whack then so will your sleep. 

When I took these tests I learned that my hormones were totally off - meaning the hormones that were supposed to make me sleepy peaked in the morning and the ones that were supposed to keep me awake peaked at night. No wonder I always felt off, even as a child. I think this was due to years of anxiety, stress and heightened fight or flight mode in the evenings due to some challenges in my home life as a child. And probably my homeostasis was more prone to feeling anxious.   

More expensive version here, less expensive but less extensive version here

2. Take an Ayurveda quiz 

Take the quiz and learn about your dosha. There are preferred foods, herbs, exercises, meditation for each dosha and what to do at particular times of the day to enhance good sleep. For instance, some people are not affected by caffeine or exercise in the afternoon or evening, whereas some people are very sensitive to it. 

You could go to an Ayurvedic practitioner to purchase the herbs, or you can buy in bulk online and then make in a tea each morning and evening that can help you sleep. Mountain Rose and Sun Potion are good. 

 

3. Superwoman Rx

I first experienced the power of acupuncture and Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) as a 26 year old having just moved to California. I was anxious and angry. The acupuncturist felt my pulse and then regurgitated to me a lifetime medical history after touching my arm and looking at my tongue for about 1 minutes. I was amazed by the wisdom and power of this reading. And even more amazed at how the acupuncture calmed me and relaxed me. Within a year, in addition to removing sugar from my diet, I was sleeping better and experiencing more regular periods than I ever had in my life. I was also had successfully not drank alcohol for one year.

I first experienced Ayurvedic medicine as a 28 year old after noticing digestive issues that weren't resolving from Western Medicine or TCM. Ayurvedic medicine, eating for my dosha, shifted not only my digestive issues but also sleep issues. 

This book by Dr. Tasneem Bhatia offers a quiz in the beginning of the book and then a 21-day plan to follow to reset your body based on the type of woman that you are. She integrates Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and Ayurvedic but also Western Medicine. This book is incredible and she integrates so much into one resource for the modern woman, including shopping lists and recipes. 

 

4. Magnesium

Magnesium is known for its ability to relieve insomnia. Some studies have found that it decreases the stress hormone, cortisol. It helps bring a relaxed, calm and sleepy feeling at the end of the day. Another study shows a potential improvement in depression and mood disorders. 

 

5. Woman Code

This book by Alisa Vitti educates women on their menstrual cycles. Your hormones and cycles can affects your sleep. Ideally you want to bleed during the new moon (upcoming Nov 19) and ovulate during the full moon (upcoming Dec 3). 

 

6. Electronics

Turning off the blue light from electronics, or better yet turning off all electronics, at least 1-3 hours before you want to go to sleep. I would also recommend that you go to sleep and wake at the same time each day. This will start to help regulate your body back to a normal state. You can use the flux app on your computer and phone.

Last, allowing the full moon light to shine on you while you sleep the day of the full moon, as well as the day before and after, and then sleeping with eye pillow all other days of the month will help remind your body (and your eggs) of sleep and menstrual rhythms. 

 

7. Meditation and Breathing

I would recommend that you meditate every morning and evening for at least five minutes to become aware of the thoughts and if racing thoughts are affecting your ability to fall asleep. There are so many great apps for meditation and I also have a YouTube videos of guided and grounding meditations. 

Coherent Breathing  is fantastic for insomnia. If you ever want to be guided through it let me know. In summary it is 5 breaths per minute for 10 minutes (inhale 6 seconds, exhale 6 seconds per minute, for 10 minutes). If you want to focus on the Wim Hof breathing that is a great tool tool. The Breathwork that I facilitate in my classes and private sessions is fantastic for clearing blocks and allowing our mind body and spirit to relax at bedtime. 

 

I'd love to hear from you about what you discover. Comment below or email me privately at gwen@gwendittmar.com. Sweet dreams! 

Wednesday Winning - Tara Nicole Hughes

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Tara Nicole Hughes is a professional dancer, choreographer and the creator of INsideOUT, a powerful and practical workshop using meditation, visualization and dance movement as a way to connect to the inner peace and wisdom within. With her highly successful, respected and integrated work as a professional dancer and choreographer, coupled with her Master’s Degree in Spiritual Psychology, her unique value lies in healing through movement. INsideOUT is an experience for the mind, body, soul.

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business?

The idea of my business started after I had my children and I felt a bit tied to the house at night. What was I to do with this time while they were asleep? I was used to taking dance classes, socializing with friends, having more “freedom”. Instead of feeling “stuck”, I decided to use this time as an opportunity to write, to share my stories of transformation; something I had been longing to do. I started a blog, which eventually grew to creating workshops/retreats/online courses, utilizing all my skills and passions: meditation, visualization and dance. My intention and goal was to bring more inner peace and happiness through these modalities. As I began this creative endeavor, things just flowed. It’s amazing what you can get done by yourself with a laptop and some inner drive. The discovery that I could do most of the leg work for my business from my bedroom, fueled me and I became obsessed. I designed my website, I wrote weekly blog posts, I became a contributing writer for Mind Body Green, I researched and booked retreat spaces, I created a 4-week online course, I networked, I set up my monthly newsletter and built my email list. The combination of doing meaningful work in the world coupled with using my natural skill set and my desire to run a business created a deeply satisfying experience for me! Even though it takes a lot of work, as it’s just me, myself, and I, its incredibly rewarding. After I do all the leg work at home, I’m able to take my mission/intentions into the studio or retreat and put it all into action. I get to feel the energy, the healing, the release, the power of the work.

 

How does spirituality impact your business?

Spirituality is at the center of my work, whether I’m working on the “business” side of things or the actual experiences that happen in my classes and workshops. I feel divinely led in my business. When I begin a blog post or lead a workshop, I ask for Divine Spirit’s assistance in helping me to bring more light and joy to the world. To me, that is a spiritual center. Every action I take is in communion with spirit. This focus and intention puts me in a space of trust, surrender and acceptance. I know that the people who are supposed to show up to my classes are there for a reason, so it doesn’t matter if there are 5 people or 35 people. When I reach out to possible collaborators, I know that my intentions are going to magnetize with others for the highest good. Working from this place of service and authenticity is the key for me to having a fulfilling and purpose-filled experience and life. Everything flows easily, and if it doesn’t, I’m able to accept that and find a new path.

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business?

I’ve learned to accept the ebbs and flows of my own process. Sometimes I’ll have months, or actually years of incredible focus, staying power and energy to create, to express, to reach out, to show up, to provide. And other times, like recently, my energy is focused inward and I need to recharge and serve my own needs through self care and love. I just came off of a 9 month journey working on a feature film in London. Since I’ve been home, I haven’t written a single blog post or been inspired to set up my next workshop series. A part of me feels anxious about that and says “get going, get going”, but I’ve come to the realization that I need something different in this moment right now, and that’s ok. Being present to my own needs and callings is the most important thing. I’ve learned to listen to myself, to the inspirations, to the messages and I know, from experience, that it shifts and all has value. I will bring this time of self nurturing and slowing down to my work to come. I will have more to share when I am filled up with my own curiosity, discovery and presence. Honoring of self, honoring of self.

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

I would tell her to trust her instincts more. I think in the beginning I thought “I don’t know how to do this”, and I started modeling myself after other successful women who were running spiritual businesses. But as I really got into the work of it, I found my own voice and discovered that it’s all right there, within me. There were helpful classes I took in the beginning like Marie Forleo’s B School. That was very helpful and put me on a path with confidence, in a nuts and bolts way. But, once that was in motion, I eventually saw that everything I needed was inside ME; the direction, the clarity, the guidance. I wish I trusted that a little more in the beginning. How do you balance your clients, professional projects and personal commitments? To be honest, this was very challenging for me before my daughters started school. Now that they are in school all day, I have my calendar open to time manage as I need. In the beginning, I felt guilty when I had my work out while with my girls. I decided to keep my work for the morning and evening hours. That way, I could be totally present with them, and then dive in fully when I was on my own and feel good about those commitments and my role as a mama. With that window of focused time, I was amazed at how much I got done.

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

I feel like my biggest challenge has been to stay the course, as there is no one driving this except me. It takes a lot of discipline and commitment. When I have bursts of creativity, it’s wonderfully exhilarating to let that energy and inspiration take over and lead the way. But we all have good days when we feel strong and equipped and bad days when life is a bit of a struggle. With that, I’ve learned to bank some of my content when things are easy and flowing, to lighten the load when I’m busy or overwhelmed. The other thing that has helped is to share from where I am in that moment, authentically and truthfully. Just showing up and trusting I am enough.

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

I am excited to start a special project I have been working on over the last month; #30daysofmeditation. I am inviting people to join me on this journey for 30 days as I hope to inspire a personal practice that helps to bring more calm, clarity and peace to one’s life. Meditation has been life changing for me and I am very happy to share it. We’ll be meditating every day for 30 days straight, starting Wednesday, November 1st. The holidays can be stressful and I think taking 20 minutes daily to center and calm will be very helpful. I’ll be sharing intentions, video meditations and direction every day on my Instagram page, so anyone is welcome to follow and join!

Power of Manifestation

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I was so inspired by the women of Boss Ladies Magazine work session this past week. As usual, we started off our time together by circling the room, each one of us sharing one challenge and one win for the week, and one thing we would like to manifest.  Some women had trouble connecting with their wildest manifestations. Others squealed with delight and embodied their manifestation while sharing with such intensity that it left the group speechless. We thought their manifest share was their win for the week. 

This got me thinking, and I simultaneously heard and received questions from some of the ladies... What is manifesting? Why do some people manifest their wildest dreams? Why do others have trouble turning fantasies into realities? 

I was first introduced to the concept of manifestation through the film, The Secret, back in 2006. The movie was based on the book written by Rhonda Byrne. In 2006, I was two years into a personal spiritual evolution and the movie expanded that paradigm shift to new heights. My then career of pharmaceutical research began to intertwine with alternative healing. And this movie, in particular, took me down a rabbit hole of quantum physics, biology of belief and neuroscience of meditation and visualization. 

During this time in my life I was finishing my second year of a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology. I was learning philosophies, practices and tools in the graduate degree as I was in my personal journey. In that second year I created five ideals for my life. I phrased all of my visions with “I am…” statements and extended them into much more detail in a five-page document. I detailed out the specifics of each ideal scenario – life, work, creativity, health, relationship, sobriety and spirituality. I cut photographs from magazines and inspired myself with vision boards. I started to observe that some of these ideal scenes were coming true. As each one "manifested" I would create the next one. 

But there was something that the movie didn't discuss that I had learned in my graduate degree. That the specifics of what I wanted to manifest wasn't the most important aspect of visualizing, it was the feeling the dream gave me that I was truly seeking.

For example, at that time my pharmaceutical research career didn't feel fulfilling anymore. I wanted something new. I had ideas but felt overwhelmed at the execution. Then I remember to focus on how I wanted to feel in this new career, versus attempting to fix, plan and figure it out with my mind.

What I deeply desired was a career that felt fulfilling, where was helping people who were suffering, that allowed me to continue to grow and learn, was lucrative and flexible, that challenged me intellectually and spiritually, that was creative, and utilized my strengths and gifts. As I wrote these “I am…” statements on paper and created a visual onto poster board that reflected how this experience would feel, I focused more on the essence, rather than the actual job. Within a year, without intending to become a coach, I had five clients and worked out a deal with my then pharmaceutical company to only work four days a week, with the same pay, so one day each week could be dedicated to my coaching clients. 

I learned a few other things through the early years of manifesting, and also, not manifesting. Although I could dream and imagine, what the Universe (Spirit, God, Higher Power) wanted for me might not always in alignment with what I wanted. Therefore I include a prayer into my visualizations and dreams. It goes, "This or something better for the highest good of all concerned." In sum, it means that I am declaring this is the next best idea that I can come up with, but I am also turning it over, because if there is something better for not only me, but for everyone else involved, then I am willing to show up for that dream too. I learned that this was surrender in action. And when there is surrender, there is manifestation. And sometimes, that manifestation looks different than what we imagined, or it unfolds in a different way that we would imagine. 

I've had ideals come true exactly the way I dreamed they would. I've had visualizations come true but in delayed span of time than I would have desired. I have had visions come true in a much different way than I would have planned but they were exactly how they needed to unfold looking back in retrospect. One of those was being a single mom before I got married. I needed to first open my heart to a child before I could open my heart to another adult. And how symbolic that was for me in my own personal journey. Relationships, commitment and marriage were always a daunting subject. I had more to heal before I could truly call partnership into my life. Being a mother first softened me, brought me into my feminine and allowed me to call in a masculine energy in the form of my now husband. And partnership still tends to be my biggest mirror and grounds for learning and spiritual evolution. 

But I digress. We are the only mammals that can dream into the future. The Secret failed not only to describe focusing one the feelings of what we deeply desire, but how to make that part of our life right here, right now, so that our dream merges into our reality. When we begin to feel and act as if its already happening, the veil between imagination and intuitive opens and there is really no difference.

Last, the other limitation of The Secret was it made us believe that these manifestations should happen simply because we are affirming them, putting photos on our walls of them. But there's also emotional and mental processing that needs to happen in order for us to release old wounds and hurts, as well as unconscious and very limiting beliefs that keep us stuck. I work with clients on releasing the conscious and unconscious material that keeps them stuck, so they can vibrate in the feelings they truly desire. Otherwise it is like banging your head against a wall while saying positive affirmations.

Remember, manifestation is energy. It is alive. Make sure you keep it living inside of you.

Register for the Manifestation Workshop on November 11, 2017 from 10 AM to 2 PM. We will dive into all of the processes, tools and skills that I use with 1:1 clients on manifesting dreams into realities. We will clarify our vision, release what is blocking us, and plan ahead for the next six-months. Then we will meet again on May 12, 2018 from 10 AM to 2 PM to share and celebrate our manifestation, learning and growth.

 Photo by Ilene Squires Photography

Photo by Ilene Squires Photography

Money and God

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The topic of money makes a lot of people squirmy. The word God also turns a lot of people off.  So here's a fun exercise if you are still reading. Take out a dollar bill from your wallet. Flip it over to the back. Read out loud what it says... 

In God we trust.

Why would this be on a dollar bill?

It's actually more relevant than you think.  

Our relationship with money reflects our relationship with God (and vice versa). They go hand in hand, because, as the saying goes, how you do one thing in life, is how you do everything.

When I am coaching with someone new, and especially in our discovery conversations, money is one of the hot topics. And what a wonderful topic it is. Because it tends to be the root, core and depth to most of the other issues in our lives.

Clients and prospective clients will ask... How do I get more? How can I make more? How can I charge more? How can I save more? I asked the same questions for years until I woke up. 

Don't get me wrong, these are all relevant questions. Important to answer and address. And we get to these questions and answering them in our coaching. But before we get to those, we need to answer a different set of questions first. How is my relationship with God? Do I trust in God? Do I give gratitude to God? Do I serve God in my work and life? Do I take care of the money God has given me, through my work in the world? Do I care for the clients and partner that create my money, through my work in the world? Do I give gratitude for the money I already have?

When we start answering these questions we start to realize the deeper material...

I thought I had a connection with God but now I realize I don't have as big of a relationship with God as I thought. Some answer, I don't have time for God, I'm too busy.  

Trust in God? God is not going to pay my bills. God doesn't care if I am living on the street or in a house. I don't trust that God is going to give me money. God isn't going to do it. I have to do it.

Serving God? I don't have time to serve God or go to church. I am too busy working. I am building my new business. I am building someone else's business. I need to focus on how I'm going to pay my bills.

Do I take care of my money? I don't have enough. I live month to month. I can't think about how much money I make and spend. I don't know how much comes in and how much goes out. Its too painful to look at the numbers. There's never enough.

My clients happened because of me, because of the relationships I built, because of the hours I put in. God had nothing to do with it. 

There's a common thread between these answers. Do you see it?

Why would God (or the replace that word with "Universe", "Higher Power" or "Energy" or "Love") give you more, if you're not happy with what you've already got?  Why would you get more if you're not taking care of what you've got? 

Then we get to the next level, when you are careful with your money, giving thanks for your money, being positive, asking God to be of service, showing up and doing the work (internally and externally) what feelings are underneath of your money? 

When you experience fear about not having enough money, you emanate a vibration that prevents you from receiving what you are asking for. Even though you have been asking for prosperity and stability the fear you are feeling is your indicator that you cannot, right now, let what you want in. As long as you continue to think the thoughts that are causing the fear, the things you want cannot show up in your life. You’ve got to accomplish the feeling first.
— Abraham and Jerry Hicks

This is why when I have a client who has been setting intentions and goals, but not noticing financial changes, its usually because the feeling behind the intentions and positivity isn't true or real. There's other feelings like fear, unappreciative, not enough, underneath of the positivity. This is why money and God are connected. When we are enough, when we are okay, when we are grateful for all we have, our lives flow and money has space to flow. 

I'd love to hear from you. What is your relationship with money? What is your relationship with God? What did you discover from this exercise? What is your next step for shifting and enhancing your experience of both? Send me an email: hello@gwendittmar.com

 

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