How to Motivate Yourself to Do Something You Don't Want or Know How to Do

Most clients come to me because they want to know HOW to have whatever it is that they want. What tactics do they need to do, what systems they need to set up, how do they make it happen? Over the years I’ve come to learn that clients are asking themselves the wrong question. It isn’t that they need to know HOW. It is that they need to know WHY.

When we get curious and ask - WHY they want it, what will happen when they have it, how will they feel when they have it, whatever it is, then clients get the answers to HOW to create it naturally and easily with grace and ease.

A client this week was asking HOW she can create more time in her day, in her week, to do the things she needs to do for her business. I could have strategized with her, diving into her calendar, her time management systems, even her beliefs about time or lack thereof. But they type of coaching I provide doesn't approach from that perspective at first.  First we dove into WHY does she want more time? What will it give her? She said if she had more time then she would be able to surf more, volunteer more, spend more time on her coaching homework. That became her WHY which motivated her and she started brainstorming and strategizing ways to organize her day, being efficient with her time, to create more time for the other things that she loved. 

So, what are you wanting or needing but not sure how to motivate yourself to do? Make sure you are connected to your WHY. Once you feel that reason inside of your mind, body and spirit, watch the HOW unfold. 

Then give yourself the gift of knowing your WHY for everything that you are doing in your life. Why are you in your marriage? Why did you choose to become a parent? Why are you doing your particular job? Why do you want more time, success, love, or health? 

I'd love to hear from you and what you come up with. Or, if you have a question and want support, schedule a discovery call to see how this concept can help you. 

Wednesday Winning - Dr. Maura Moynihan Amoroso

Dr. Maura Moynihan Amoroso is one of the most loving, nurturing, humorous, joyful and playful women I know. Her laughter and smile are contagious. Her intelligence and wisdom are beyond her years. Over the twelve years that I've known Maura, I've experienced her magic as a chiropractic doctor for women, infants, and children, as well as blossom into a mother of four boys (yes, I did say four sons). If you find yourself uncertain of how to manage to be an entrepreneur, mother, wife, friend and ultimate lover of life, read below for Maura's tips on how she maintains her strong sense of self amidst it all. 

How does spirituality impact your business?

Spirituality is the backbone (ha) for how I show up, how I create, and how I serve in my business. The quote from Ron and Mary Hulnick "Healing is the application of Loving to the places inside that hurt" is on my business card and it is from this place that I work with others. People tend to think of going to a body worker for fixing, but I work under the tenant that the body is merely one component of our experience and when it is hurting, more often than not, there are some opportunities in the mental, emotional or unconscious levels to look at. 

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business?

This is such a great question because staying motivated during the ups is very similar to the downs. I find having a spiritual practice, for me, meditation, prayer, journaling, processing with a small group of my like-hearted sisters - is the foundation, so no matter what is happening on the outside, my inside experience has a consistent invitation to connect with the Divine. Also, having a practice of observing my thoughts and labeling them as just thoughts, has been transformational in keeping myself present to what is. By observing my passing thoughts, I don't give them too much credence, as another thought quickly follows. Whereby, I gain altitude and have space for inspiration to come in. 

Also, I notice that when I have said "I need a break!" my schedule slows down. This is usually not what I am looking for so I tend to make a deeper inquiry when this thought arises. If I need more self-care, connection with my husband, girlfriends, etc. or if, in fact, I need a 'break' from working or I need to refuel. 

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

Oh, I love this. I would tell that eager little lady to be patient. To enjoy the learning, because as long as you are in a body you are learning! I would happily tell her that her practice will morph and evolve and grow. I would tell her that I will be humbled and inspired, I will make mistakes and I will make a difference. I would tell her that it just gets better and better, that my service is a blessing to me as I fall in love with my patients again and again and again. 

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects, and personal commitments?

Now, this right here is the question. This is where the word "balance" is tricky for me. The spinning plates are never truly in balance, I attend to all aspects of my life but the loudest and most pressing gets most of my attention until the next one hollers. Delegating the less pressing issues has been paramount.

I experience mothering my four boys, nurturing my marriage, tending to my friendships, honoring my inner growth and spiritual practice, and serving my patients by heavily relying on a schedule. When I have it on the calendar it happens. I schedule my workouts, I schedule my date nights, I schedule hanging out with friends. Things happen when it's on my google calendar.  It's the best!

The other huge supports are having really loving child care, and having a self-nurturing practice. I leave my house pretty much every morning by 6 am to take care of me. Whether it's exercise or reading at a cafe I leave and fill up my cup so that I can show up in the world for others. 

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

My biggest challenge has been the refinement and the time management with mothering and partnership and serving and self-care and friendship and education and staying inspired. I grew up interpreting being a mom as the primary role for a woman. And as motherhood is one of my biggest gifts, it is not who I am. I am Maura, showing up as a mom, a doctor, a friend. Staying true to myself keeps the challenges as hurdles and not road blocks.

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

I just moved my office to West Culver City and am really excited about working with some extraordinary and heart-centered women healers. So excited! I also am lit up about my new offering of coaching women. This was fun Gwen! So much love to you!  

Become a Financially Savvy Femalepreneur

I've been coaching for ten years and in that time a lot has changed. Here are five suggestions I give to new clients that are also new starting their own business. 

1. Hire a lawyer -

Make sure you consult with a lawyer prior to investing any labor or money into your business. You'll want to ensure you've got all bases covered for your business such as licenses, insurances, forms, etc. When you are proactive you won't have to spend time putting out fires while you are in the craft of your business. 

2. Hire an accountant -

Trust me on this one, please hire someone to assist you financially with your business. If you were an accountant or bookkeeper in a previous career, then maybe it is not necessary for you. But for most all of my clients, and myself, having an accountant is a game changer. Yes, it can be a big business expense but you'll gain so much knowledge about your business from the start versus in retrospect. You'll learn how to set up your company (DBA, LLC or Corp), what systems work best for tracking your professional and personal income and expenses (Quickbooks, Intuit, Mint, Excel), what is tax deductible and how to invest in your retirement and business. Make sure your money is streamlined - so it can flow into your bank accounts with ease. 

3. Hire help -

I know, this was something I used to think only "other" people had, or I could only have once I made or had a certain amount of money. While it is true that you want to be mindful that your income exceeds your expenses, you'll also want to run the numbers to see how your business could grow if you had someone assisting you with administrative tasks while you continued to build the business. As a coach, I support my clients in having balance - which means not working all the time and creating space for self-care and fun. Almost all of the successful femalepreneurs that I know have an assistant in some capacity - be it an intern, part-time, virtual or full-time assistant. The really successful entrepreneurs that I have met also hire consultants and specialists for their business - marketing strategy, digital strategy, social media, technology, book keeping, photographers, administrative.

If you've never hired an assistant, get clear on what type of person you want to work with, both their inner and external qualities, then post an ad on Craigs List or network with your other communities. Once I hired a team - social media, marketing, administrative - my work got more efficient, my life got more enjoyable and being a mother of two toddlers became easier. 

4. Be rigorous with your schedule -

Working for yourself can be equally amazing and challenging. Often times I have clients who leave corporate America because they want flexibility but get sucked into the old habit of working nonstop, rabbit hole of social media, over indulgence of self-care, running errands and taking care of the home or time spent with friends when they really need to be focusing on the business. When you start your own business, you'll need to remember what works well for you and also what works well for your customers. What hours do you work best - morning, mid-day, afternoon, evening? What type of life do you want to lead? Make sure you get rigorous with your calendar and schedule time for self-care, friends, social media, creativity for new ideas and administrative tasks. 

5. Hire a coach - 

This is important. Do you have anyone that is helping you see your business clearly? I love to be the student and to learn more about my craft and service.

If you are a coach or healer, do you invest in the services you provide? If not, why would someone else. I have found it to be vital to hire others who do what I do, and who have what I want. It is similar to professionals who have licenses (doctors, nurses, therapist, lawyers, accountants) - they need to keep their licenses alive. Why would we as coaches, healers, creatives, entrepreneurs be any different? 

I hope you find these tips to becoming a financially savvy femalepreneur useful. I'd love to hear your comments and favorite tips! 

Wednesday Winning - Anahita Joon

Authentic Style coach, credentialed leadership coach and spiritual counselor to visionary women, Anahita Joon was born and raised in war-torn Iran. Anahita is passionate about TRUE Freedom and believes this freedom lives in our return to NATURE. Anahita works with women who value self-expression through Authentic Style offers insights and practical how-to's for women who are ready embrace the gifts of their physical beauty and take the lid off any place where they have been holding back the expression of their power, light, and creativity.

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business? 

For many years, 15 years I coached on the side. I lead women groups, retreats, and workshops, I mentored many younger women but it was like a hobby that made me some money. I worked for other powerful transformational female leaders in their companies. In 2012 I had a vision of what my life would be if I stayed working to grow someone else's vision and what was possible for the world and myself if I went out on my own. I realized how afraid I was. I was afraid the Universe wouldn't support my vision, my calling. I heard the Divine Mother say to me (I hear things, I am clairaudient) You have to leave to know how truly supported you are and that was it.

 

How does spirituality impact your business? 

This is such a BIG question, I don't know what is not spiritual. The last few years have been a deepening for me to really find the sacred in the mundane, so all of life is spiritual to me and that includes business. I will say, my spiritual practice has granted me access to inner stillness, and this stillness does serve my business when I might otherwise be overwhelmed or just not feel like it. Also, I have a big WHY - what I do is literally the thing that pulses the blood through my veins. The WHY is to be FREELY expressed and serve humanity’s freedom from all oppression, inner and outer.

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business? 

At this point I am totally unemployable because I am so sold on my business, my vision really. My business is really my soul expression, it is everything I spent the last twenty-four years becoming. I also have a business mentor, a solid group of successful female entrepreneurs as friends, and off the charts clients who are so bold and committed they inspire me infinitely. Of course, it helps that many of them are friends or become friends. I think also the fact that I take time off is how I keep going.

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

Going back to the one who created and taught her first-weekend workshop over ten years ago I would say TRUST YOURSELF and SERVE as big as you can, and there is no “where” to get to. I would repeat this every year along the way.

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects, and personal commitments?

On Sundays, I vision the week ahead and ask myself what kind of experience I would like to add to the week ahead. What am I really wanting? Maybe a lazy afternoon by the pool, or a two-hour conversation with a girl friend or a to prepare a Persian meal that would take 3 hours and I add those in the calendar. Also, I put everything in the calendar, even yoga, lunch and my twenty-minute nap when I have my cycle. And the last week of the month I generally don't see clients, so that is a week for creative flow, content creation and at least 4 days of PLAY.

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

Working alone was a big challenge. Much of my work is virtual and also my team members are virtual. I am a homebody and also an extrovert. There were times I would just not leave the house for days and I would start to get depressed and not know why.  Now I get dressed and leave every day to work with friends, or in public places when I am not seeing clients.

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

I was recently invited to contribute as a co-author. The forthcoming book is called “The New Feminine Evolutionary”. I feel honored to be in the company of incredible leading women creating this piece together. I really share my deepest wisdom in this piece and am now working on the full book.  Also, expect to see me on a Ted-x Stage soon dropping some hot bold truth.

 

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5 Tips for Creating Your Own Moon Circle

Engaging in Full Moon and New Moon Circles with a tribe of women from month to month is extremely nurturing to our emotional and physical bodies as women. Here are five tips for creating your own moon circle. 

1. Cleanse the Space

As physical beings, we bring our psychic and spiritual energy with us wherever we go. By cleansing ourselves before initiating the circle we allow ourselves to release anything we may be carrying, conscious or unconscious.

Smudging: Burning sage comes from a Native American tradition. When sage is burned, it pulls toxins from our physical and energetic bodies and as the ash falls to Mother Earth she composts and regenerates. Palo Santo is a wood from South America and similar to sage, clears energies from our aura. Sage supposedly has a masculine essence whereas Palo Santo has a feminine essence, therefore I prefer using Palo Santo in moon circles.

2. Calling in the Four Directions

Calling four directions is a tradition of shamanic healing. Spiritual energy is all around us in many forms and on many planes of consciousness. By calling in the four directions we invoke the guardians of energy and consciousness.

a.      Face the east – To the winds of the east, great eagle condor, come to us from the place of the rising Sun, keep us under your wing, show us the mountains we only dare to dream of, teach us to fly wing to wing with the great Spirit

b.     Face the south – To the winds of the south, the great serpent, wrap your coils of light around us, teach us to shed the past the way you shed your skin, to walk softly on the earth, teach us the beauty way

c.      Face the west – To the winds of the west, mother jaguar, protect our medicine space, teach us the way of peace, to live impeccably, show us the way beyond death

d.     Face the north – To the winds of the north, hummingbird, grandmothers, and grandfathers, ancient ones, come and warm your hands by our fires, whisper to us in the wind, we honor you who have come before us, and you who will come after us, our children’s children

e.      Kneel on the Mother Earth – We’ve gathered for the healing of all your children, the stone people, the plant people, the four-legged, the two-legged, the creepy crawler, the finned, the furred, and the winged ones, all our relations

f.       Face and Palms to the Sun – Father Sun, Grandmother Moon, to the Star Nations, Great Spirit, you who are known by a thousand names, And you who are the unnameable One, Thank you for bringing us together and allowing us to sing the Song of Life. 

3. Offerings

As human beings, we are gifted with the written word, language, and sonic sound. In our circles, we include singing, dancing, chanting, drumming, poetry and other forms of inspiration and creativity. I enjoy incorporating something that inspires and aligns with the astrological insights. 

4. Setting Intentions or Releasing 

The New Moon is a time of darkness and planting seeds and setting intentions for the month ahead. The Full Moon is a time of reviewing the seeding process, reviewing what might be blocking us, and releasing what no longer serves us. During our New Moon circles, we set an intention for what we want to create in the month ahead. During the Full Moon circles, we release into the fire what we no longer want or need in order to have more of what we desire. 

5. Pulling Cards

I love to incorporate decks of cards into my circles. We pull Angel Cards and Goddess cards by Doreen Virtue and The Wild Unknown Animal Spirit deck to see what they have to offer to our intentions. Often times the cards we pull align and confirm the intentions we've set for our month.

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Historically women who lived in close physical contact, emotional connection, and spiritual alignment would bleed together. When women collectively celebrate the phases of their cycle, the menstruation with the New Moon and ovulation in the Full Moon, they empower themselves, their lives and one another.

To learn more about mastering your menses visit, my blog on How to Master Your Menstrual Cycle. To join one of my circles, visit https://gwencoach.acuityscheduling.com/

Wednesday Winning - Giuditta Tornetta

Meet Giuditta Tornetta, birth and postpartum doula, baby-whisperer, lactation educator, a certified clinical hypnotherapist, a neuro-linguistic programming practitioner, workshop leader, speaker, two-time bestselling author and non-profit guru and global advocate for women. My first experience with Giuditta was as a doula for the homebirth of my daughter, then the homebirth of my son and now as a friend.  Giuditta brings loads of experience, love, and intellect to those she serves.

Giuditta practices clinical hypnotherapy and method of natural and painless childbirth that uses hypnotic techniques to reduce stress and fear during labor and delivery. Her love for women and her professional experience has enabled her to help hundreds of women in her practice and thousands of books and workshops worldwide achieve the birthing experience they desired.

In her most recent book, “Conversations With The Womb” (Balboa Press 2014), Giuditta guides women, in all phases of life, through a deeper connection to their most vital resource – their womb. I highly encourage you to purchase this book, soak up the wisdom and read below for more on Giuditta and her journey as a spiritual entrepreneur.

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business? 

I had started writing a book about my painless birthing experience, after my daughter’s birth, but the job of raising my children and financially providing for them took over my life. I put the book into hibernation for years, until one day my life took a dramatic change. It all began after I was let go from my latest job and was at a loss as to what to do next. One of my saving graces in life has been taking a morning walk and having a conversation with God. I asked, “What do you want me to do next? I am willing to work hard, so why am I not getting a job? How can I provide for my children?” What I heard was, “Be patient and listen. Follow whatever suggestion you hear next.”

God talks to us through people, places, and things. So, when an acquaintance suggested I look into getting a certificate in Lactation Education at UCLA, I did it without asking any questions. At that point in my life, I had been earning a solid six-figure salary and I was fully aware that a Lactation Educator was more a vacation than a profession. But I have learned never to question my Higher Power, and soon found out where the magic was. In that class, I met a doula that spoke of her job as an amazing mission of love, helping women bring their children naturally into this world without the use of drugs or medical intervention. I realized this was the answer to my lifelong desire to share my experience with other women. 

 

How does spirituality impact your business?  

I feel like I am a channel for the divine to speak through me, I know it sounds corny, but when I am with a laboring woman, for example, I literally get "inspired" about what she needs next, versus thinking about it and/or making a decision from my head. I let the situation inspire me on how to help her through her journey. The same goes for the workshops I facilitate around the world; there is a skeleton structure I follow, dictated by the Nine Chakras of Creation methodology reflected in my books.  But, for the most part, the group will inspire me on what to talk about or facilitate next.  

In all my work I work on healing the insecurities, the fears, and the inherited patterns that stop women trusting the Shakti (power) and wisdom (intuition) that effortlessly flows through them. It's about recognizing all of the ways we have been keeping ourselves contained and restrained in an effort to fit into a certain archetype of a woman. It’s about co-creating a whole new archetype of woman – a woman who does not keep herself small in order to make others feel more comfortable. 

On a personal level, I have a daily practice, meditation, gratitude, listening to inspiring speakers, reading books and allowing myself to stop my mind chatter and listen, truly listen to the constant messages I receive. My spirituality also comes from my ancestral background as a witch, alchemist, and healer.

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business? 

The most challenging part of having your own business is self-motivation.  At the beginning of my career, I'd spend up to 12 hours at times building my platform, writing, marketing etc.  Now that my business is flowing sometimes I take an entire day off and truly enjoy the fact that I don't have to go to a 9-5 job. After 15 years of this, I still get scared if my calendar is not filled, but I often remind myself that my calendar has and will fill with people and events that are truly meant for me. 

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

Trust; you will be amazed at how much you will accomplish. 

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects, and personal commitments?

I am a very happily single and dating sixty-year-old woman with little to no personal commitments, however, I am always on-call for work. So while my life is amazing and I have an abundance of time for pleasure I have also had to learn how to manage to have a business and personal life while being on-call for my business.  The bottom line for me is to fall madly in love with yourself so that no matter what you are always with your best lover, buddy, friend, and family. 

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

At the beginning, I came from being in charge of a fluctuation from 15 to 200 people depending on the projects. I was used to an office environment and was surrounded by friends. So to all of the sudden be alone in my home-office was terrifying and felt lonely. Today I could not go to an office, not matter the financial security of a job. I figured out how to have conversations on the phone with friends when I need a virtual hug. I have Facebook to keep tabs with so many people and I actually love it. I see pictures of babies I ushered into this world 10-15 years ago that is such a great feeling. I created daily rituals for myself that help me when I am in fear of financial lack.

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

I am writing two books right now and I am very excited about them, but the most exhilarating this is my first workshop based on my last book Conversations with the Womb. I am premiering it in Greece this year as an off-Broadway premier before I take it on the road nationally in the United States and globally. 

How Do You Talk To Yourself

I was reminded today about the importance of self-talk. I don't mean positive, self-motivating talk. I mean how do you really listen, hear, connect and communicate with yourself? Do you have a tender and unconditionally loving voice, just as you would with a friend? Or do you immediately jump in and tell yourself to cheer up, get back up and go? 

I learned how to talk lovingly to myself during my masters at The University of Santa Monica. But the mastery of this self-talk happened when I became a mother and reached its pinnacle when I became a mother of a tantrum toddler. 

What I learned from my toddler was when I attempted to 1) fix the feelings, 2) fix the situation, 3) make the feelings go away, it only made the tantrum worse. The easiest way to stop the tantrum was to say back in the same tone as my child, "I hear you! You are angry! You are sad! I get it! I understand!" Instantly the screaming would stop along with tears and flailing arms and legs.

Incredible. We just want to be heard. We just want to be seen. We just want to be understood.

So, as an adult, when I feel angry, sad, overwhelmed, confused, or simply out of sorts, I stop and say back to myself, "I hear you! You feel (fill in the blank) and you want (fill in the blank)". Most of the time, the feeling subsides and I can move forward with processing the feelings and the solutions. 

I've seen clients release stomach bloating, colds, headaches, neediness and procrastination from t taking a few moments to really hear what their inner self is attempting to tell them and understand themselves.

Wednesday Winning - Dana Schwartz

Blessings! Today is Wednesday Winning and we are featuring Dana Schwartz. This beautiful beam of light is a California State Licensed Acupuncturist, herbalist, massage therapist, essential oil educator, and a mentor in the business of doTERRA. While Dana comes from a family of allopathic and Western medical doctors, Dana decided to investigate Eastern medicine that was connected and rooted to nature’s wisdom, with science as its ally. She has over 20 years experience with mind/body medicine and believes in the importance of Integrative Medicine and is happy to be a part of this newly emerging and field in health care

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business?

My journey of healing inspired me to start my business. My journey of healing started, while working in film production, I had an accident on the eve of 2000. I fell on my head, was vacationing in a small village in Mexico. During my time healing, I had the realization that I needed to change my direction in my life. I thought this meant becoming a doctor, as I come from a family of physicians. Yet I felt called to go in a more unconventional route, and first went to massage school in NYC. This was a solid foundation in anatomy and physiology and was only the beginning for me. I wanted to go deeper and continued my education through a master degree in Chinese medicine and herbology.  

 

How does spirituality impact your business? 

For me, spirituality is woven through all of my life. It is my intention to have the every day be sacred, every moment, and every breath. Our business is a home based, and one that I share with my husband. This is a huge foundation of my spirituality, as our marriage is the foundation of our lives. At home we have alters in each room as reminders to the deeper aspects of life. I choose to open each day with the prayer, "Whom may I serve today?

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business? 

Making personal development a part of our business is a key element. As one of my mentors used to say, "Success leaves clues". I make it a part of my job to find people who inspire me to learn with and from. When I see the possibility I will look to others who have done something similar.  So I am never alone, there is always a possible new way to view things. I am also a very optimistic person, and so I know if I am feeling down, that what is most needed is a pause and rest, then refreshing energy can come in to renew. Books, podcasts, and webinars keep me learning and inspired. I am also am very motivated through my love of the outdoors, hiking and finding intimate nature sanctuaries keep my heart open.

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business? 

To keep better records of everything, online, and to hire people to help in areas that are not my strengths. Rather than going it all on my own.

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects, and personal commitments?  

I try and honor the natural rhythm of things, although I can have a tendency to push myself and have good results when I do, so it is important for me to declare and take time off. I also tend to prioritize certain aspects of my life in different seasons of time. There are times that family and social take priority, and other times when work and financial creation is the main focus. So I am not sure it is balanced all the time, but the overall big picture is where I can see the balance.

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

My biggest challenge was accumulating a lot of student debt that came with an amazing education. This also made it more of a challenge to be an entrepreneur because I had to pay out large start-up costs. This is one of the many reasons we are currently working with doTERRA, to clear this past debt, and also create a retirement plan for our family in the future.  

It was through seeing from a bigger perspective, that we didn't have a retirement plan, we were both bringing in money by the hour, we wanted to create more security and build a business for the future too.  It has been joyful to work with so many wonderful people, so it has been a big surprise.

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

A collaboration with an organization called Free From.org. Their mission is to make safety affordable for all survivors of domestic violence so that they can build lives free from violence for themselves and their children. They have a new entrepreneur program that we have partnered with to help a woman to open their own doTERRA essential oil business with our support and mentorship. 

It's Your Beliefs That Are Limiting You - Not Your Action or Procrastination

Creating what we desire is a recipe of equal parts 1) taking big risks 2) having a vision 3) doing the inner work and 4) doing the outer work. 

I love doing, working and producing on the physical level. I also enjoy the realms of consciousness and spirituality. I have faith, I pray, I visualize and imagine. For a long time, I thought that my businesses success or failure was directly related to these things. 

Not long ago I discovered that despite my smart work, and FAITH that anything was possible, I still didn't believe or have faith when it came to money. Somewhere, deep down inside, there was an old belief that I couldn't do what I loved AND provide for myself and my family. 

Crazy, right? I know. It was a belief that seemed preposterous even to me! But I couldn't shake it no matter how hard I tried. No amount of pushing, driving or working on the outside made a difference. My coach pointed this out to me after observing it underneath the surface in several conversations. And honestly, if I didn't have her on my team, I would have been oblivious to it, because it was out of my sight. So I started looking at that belief about money, where did it come from, was it even mine, why was I holding onto it, what would it take to let go? So I wrote the answers to those questions. I completed several rounds of free form writing for 32-days in a row. I went to my energy healers to unlock and unblock if there was anything on an unconscious level that I didn't have access to. And I stayed the course of my spiritual practices, daily work tasks, and asking the Universe to support me. 

The beauty of our external world is that it gives us feedback for what system we are operating on in the inner world. When our external world isn't working the way we would like, its an opportunity to investigate the conscious and unconscious inner worlds.  

The beauty of coaching is that I would not have seen it as quickly or clearly had I not had someone in my corner who was watching everything from a higher perspective. My coach is not supposed to be my friend, she's not my partner or invested or attached to my family. She's completely neutral with only one goal - to support me in creating what I desire. She intuits and sees what we cannot and, with curiosity and play, asks us to look at it with them. 

My coach was with me every step of the way because she didn't want me walking around the world thinking I don't have enough money, that I couldn't create what I wanted or needed, that Love and the Universe would not provide for me. 

As your coach, I don't want you walking around with any of those stifling or limiting beliefs about money. If you are, let's get on the phone and get to the core - what beliefs are blocking you from creating what you deeply desire. 

With Love, Gwen

Overwhelmed? Try calling in nature and the Elements

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I hear from so many professionals, executives, and entrepreneurs that they find themselves overwhelmed, anxious, ungrounded, out of balance off and on throughout the day despite meditating, exercising and consciously breathing. 

There are so many tools that I use for coming back into balance.  Essential oils, crystals, Breathwork, exercise, yoga, art and creativity, meditation, yoga all work wonders.  But when you are limited on time and resources - between meetings, clients, or diapers - there's one thing that only requires we gaze out the window - to the elements of nature. 

Take off your shoes, look at the trees. Watch the wind dance with the leaves. Savor the single blade of grass. Know that the flower blossom once started as a small seed. Feel the warmth of the sun on your skin. A few minutes of allowing nature to compost your stress will do you wonders.

There is a prayer I use when I want to reconnect with nature which entails calling in the elements and four directions. This prayer is a tradition of shamanic healing. Spiritual energy is all around us in many forms and on many planes of consciousness. By calling in the four directions we invoke the guardians of energy and consciousness.

Face the East – To the winds of the East, great eagle condor, come to us from the place of the rising Sun, keep us under your wing, show us the mountains we only dare to dream of, teach us to fly wing to wing with the great Spirit

Face the south – To the winds of the South, great serpent, wrap your coils of light around us, teach us to shed the past the way you shed your skin, to walk softly on the earth, teach us the beauty way

Face the West – To the winds of the West, mother jaguar, protect our medicine space, teach us the way of peace, to live impeccably, show us the way beyond death

Face the north – To the winds of the north, hummingbird, grandmothers, and grandfathers, ancient ones, come and warm your hands by our fires, whisper to us in the wind, we honor you who have come before us, and you who will come after us, our children’s children

Kneel on the Mother Earth – We’ve gathered for the healing of all your children, the stone people, the plant people, the four-legged, the two-legged, the creepy crawler, the finned, the furred, and the winged ones, all our relations

Face to the Sun – Father Sun, Grandmother Moon, to the Star Nations, Great Spirit, you who are known by a thousand names, And you who are the unnamable One, Thank you for bringing us together and allowing us to sing the Song of Life

Nature calms the nervous system because there is acceptance, flow, and grace. By connecting with the earth, air, fire, and water, we shed what no longer serves us, that stress gets composted into the earth, and we can come into balance.  

Wednesday Winning - Julie Solomon

Ladies and Gents – Today’s Wednesday Winning is featuring Julie Solomon – and wow do I feel so lucky to have crossed paths with a powerhouse like Julie. As a publicist, brand manager, marketing strategist, blogger, and founder of The Influencer Podcast, Julie’s blog, juliesolomon.net, teaches influencers and entrepreneurs how to up-level their business through PR, social media, and marketing strategies. Her course, Pitch it Perfect, is an online course that teaches people how to garner free publicity for themselves through a pitch formula I created, that garnered over $500K in brand deals in 2016. Read below to learn more about how Julie started her business, her greatest challenges in building a business, how she overcame them and how she balances clients such as Lenny Kravitz, Janes Addiction, Stone Temple Pilots, blogger Lauren Scruggs Kennedy and publishing houses Simon & Schuster and Harper Collins Publishing.

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business? 

I saw the need that bloggers and influencers needed when it pertained to knowledge, valuing their work and knowing their worth. So many influencers were negotiating bad deals and agreeing to terms that didn't serve them or their work for the long term. It's my goal to change that for them.

 

How does spirituality impact your business?

Spirituality impacts my business through service. It's the essence of my brand. I work with a lot of faith-based leaders and prominent Christian leaders. As well, my course Conscious Connection is all about connecting to your unique spiritual brilliance to reveal your true service to the world. I worked with an energy healer and spiritual coach, Nicola Salter, last year and she really helped me align how my "spirit" can flow with my mind and body to achieve a greater brilliance. It was life changing and really catapulted my endeavors to where they are today. In such a short time, so much was achieved and it was truly inspiring. 

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business?

My family is a driving force, as well my own outlook. I tend to be extremely optimistic, which helps. If something fails or doesn't happen then way I envisioned I might feel disappointed but I use it as fuel for growth to get me to that next level. I know that every struggle I am given, essentially, is what I have asked for. It's all part of the process. 

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

Focus down! I believe it is so important to test a lot of things out, as that how you find your niche. But I wish I had been more focused. I used to work sporadically and would constantly be switching to different tasks at the same time, which really wasted so much time. 

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects, and personal commitments?

It's a daily practice. Praying and meditation help and honestly I say NO often. If it is not going to clearly better my family, my work or I then I don't do it. 

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

My biggest challenges were always leaving the "safe" jobs and going out on my own. I have done it twice now and as scary as it is, I always know when I follow my fears, I am on the right track. 

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

I am most excited about my new podcast, The Influencer Podcast. We just launched last month and are already in the top 40 business podcasts on iTunes. It is really amazing. I love the conversations and connecting with my audience in this way. We are also working on some new things with Pitch it Perfect. Although it is geared toward bloggers, anyone that has a "brand" or business they are trying to promote can benefit from it. If you need to collaborate or if you need to garner media for your business - this will help you get there!

What Is Breathwork?

I have detoxed from gluten, sugar, and alcohol. I've fasted on juices, trained for races and practiced yoga. I've chanted, meditated, engaged in a myriad of spiritual endeavors and therapy. I've even gotten a Masters in Spiritual Psychology. Breathwork, however, has been one of the most powerful healing modalities that I have experienced.

What is Breathwork?

This simple yet profound breathing technique originates from pranayama yoga. Breathwork is about moving energy and harnessing self-awareness through multiple levels of consciousness, beyond the mind, through respiration. It is a natural and active form of meditation and breathing. There are many types of Breathwork; Holotropic, Rebirth, Wim Hof and Shamanic.

What will you feel? 

Research shows that Breathwork opens energy channels, rounds your energetic and nervous system, relaxes and calms and relieves stress, toxicity, addiction, depression. It clears away old stories and limiting beliefs, heals trauma and wounds. Clients experience an alignment of their chakras, creates flow through the body and opens their heart to a deeper sense of love. Breathwork enhances intuition and emotional intelligence and offers an experience that is revelatory, clarifying and healing and much more.  

According to Yoga Journal "There is a very direct relationship between breath rate, mood state, and autonomic nervous system state, says Sat Bir Singh Khalsa, PhD, assistant professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School who studies yoga and meditation. The autonomic nervous system governs the body’s sympathetic (fight-or-flight) and parasympathetic (rest-and-restore) responses, dialing functions like heart rate, respiration, and digestion up or down as necessary in response to potential threats. Evolutionarily, this worked as a survival mechanism, but today’s nonstop barrage of smartphone pings, emails, and news updates also trips the body’s alarms—and often."

What to expect when you come to a class?

I will teach you the practice of breathing and share what to expect as you breathe from my own experience. I will share an intention for the class and for your practice. You will lay on the floor, music will be played. I will incorporate hands-on guidance, aromatherapy, and crystals as you breathe and the rest will unfold. Each Breath Work session is unique and experiences can be different for each individual. After the class is over, you can stay and connect, or process on your own at home. Either way, I encourage you to take the time to journal about your experience and incorporate your insights and learnings into your daily life for several days after the class. 

What to expect during a private session? 

As a private client, you will share more intimately about what you are desiring in your life, what you are challenged by, any blocks or obstacles you are facing or what you would like to heal and clarify. As we talk, I will share any intuitive hits that come forward. Then I will teach you the practice of breathing and share what to expect as you breathe. I will ask you to set an intention for your experience. Then you will lay on the floor and music will be played. I will incorporate hands-on guidance, aromatherapy, and crystals as you breathe and the rest will unfold.

Each Breath Work session is unique and experiences can be different for each individual. Once the active breathing is over, you will breathe and lay to get grounded. We will talk briefly after the session. I will encourage you to take the time to journal about your experience and incorporate your insights and learnings in the days following the Breathwork. 

To learn more about this latest trend, read Shape Magazine, MindBodyGreen and PureWow

The only source of knowledge is experience.
— Albert Einstein

Give yourself the gift of experiencing Breathwork. I would love to see you and your radiance shine through one breath at a time. 

Wednesday Winning - Hemalayaa Behl

I thrilled to introduce Hemalayaa Behl to you this week. As a lifestyle enhancement coach, motivational teacher, writer, dancer, lover of life and TV host, Hemalayaa personifies the divine feminine and leads women into their full feminine EMBODIMENT. I worked with Hemalayaa last autumn, and over the course of just two sessions, I opened and embodied the Shakti and began expressing more fully and deeply in my daily life. Hemalayaa has a powerful, playful, sensual and calm energy and weaves her heritage and life experience to serving the modern woman. Make sure you read all the way to the bottom to see a photo of Hemalayaa in action. Here is the one and only Hemalayaa!

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business?

What happened or inspired me to start my business is the transformation I experienced from the work I was doing on myself. I was transformed by the healing that was happening within myself from practicing yoga, dance, tantra and emotional release techniques. I wanted women who felt disconnected with themselves or not confident with their purpose to experience the shift I did. I know how to take them there. 

 

How does spirituality impact your business?  

I believe we all have our own unique connection with our spiritual selves. Spirituality is different than religion, and sometimes religion can confuse us and take us away from who we truly are…not always, but sometimes. I bring in spirituality into my work and help others find what your power practices are for bringing you into higher alignment. 

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your business? 

This is a good question! I dance. I play. I keep myself in the pleasure zones often. I work in a way that keeps me creatively intact and connects to my deep feminine essence. 

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

Another great question! I would tell the younger me to build structure, systems and build a community and team to support. 

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects, and personal commitments?

I have time pockets to relax and do nothing. I call it blank space. I have a three to five-day stretch every month where I can do that. I play spontaneously without an agenda in those times.

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

My biggest challenge was buying into the belief that I had to do it all alone, independently, and like a man. I softened into my feminine and trusted more and opened up to the truth inside that I want to be partnered with others and work together. 

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

I am so excited for what’s already evolved and my summer tour with the musician, DTO. It’s been awesome! To learn more about where you can hear us perform, visit: hemalayaa.com/turnitup

 

 

 

Why Having A Morning Ritual Will Change Your Life and Income

Having an intention and saying it out loud is like getting in your car with a destination of where you are going. Can you imagine getting in the car and driving around in circles all day? This is what most people do when they don't have a ritual to map out the remainder of their day. 

1. Get out of bed and move your body for 1 minute - I'm talking simplest stretches, a few yoga moves, closing your eyes and moving to your favorite song. It's about getting your blood, muscles, and energy flowing. This will wake you up more than coffee after doing it for a few weeks. 

Some of my clients have gone from 1 minute of stretching to training for and completing a marathon in a short amount of time or creating an hour long yoga routine. And not by forcing themselves but by taking small steps, one day at a time. Habits are created through consistent action. 

2. Set a timer and meditate for 5 minutes - notice the inhale, exhale and body as you breathe. Becoming present to your mental chatter, and breathing through it builds a muscle of sitting through discomfort which helps during more uncomfortable challenges. Being able to sit through discomfort allows us to expand and have bigger lives, bigger wins, bigger money, bigger love. 

Note: If you are a woman, it is suggested not to meditate (or engage intensely in meditation) while you are bleeding. The energy of meditation is pulling you out of your body and opposes the energy of bleeding which is grounding your body. Meditating during your moon cycle can cause a disconnected energy within your being. 

3. Write down 3 gratitudes and 3 self-appreciations - better yet have an accountability partner and email them to him or her. This takes 1 minute at most. 

Being grateful completely shifts moods, attitudes, limiting and old beliefs. Being appreciative of things you do for yourself brings the desire to do more of it. 

If you don't have someone in your life you can share these types of things with please let me know. I am here to support you AND have people in my circle who are looking to build this type of accountability and inspiration with a new friend. 

4. State 3 affirmations out loud - cultivate them towards something you are intending for, want to heal, want to experience more of in your life. This takes another minute. 

There is something very different about thinking things in your head and actually saying them out loud. If you want exponential results, say these affirmations out loud looking at your own reflection in the mirror. Wow. You'll be amazed. I've had clients shift their income from their annual earnings to their quarterly earnings because they affirm what they want to experience (versus unconsciously spiraling in what they don't want). 

5. Set an intention for the day - it can be a quality, an action. Remember your word to yourself is more important than anything else in the world. This also takes one minute.

If you have any questions please feel free to reach out and comment!  

 

Learning to Use Your Intuition Can Be Tricky

Intuition is a tricky topic for most of my clients who are just starting their spiritual path. I can relate because I spent most of my life of not listening to my true self, not understanding my emotions and not honoring my intuitions. And I had a lot of trouble differentiating between the mental chatter, the feelings, and the intuition or higher self. 

Intuition is tricky for those who have been on the conscious path for a long time. What I've noticed happen for myself at certain points of my life and for my clients are they become comfortable or their life becomes too full, and the daily practices that got them the amazing life in the first place get placed on the back burner. Muscles that don't get used atrophy. Intuition is no different. 

The best way to learn to differentiate between mental chatter and intuitive hits is that I feel them in my gut or stomach and often times they make no logical sense. 

I am a nerd at heart and I spent early years of my adult working career in pharmaceutical research. That career gave me the gift of running experiments and making choices based on data. 

Making choices on blind faith is hard for most and at times life calls for it but most of the time choices are easier once we have data to back it up. Data can come in the form of running your own experiments - observing what works and what doesn't. 

The easiest and most light-hearted way I enhance intuition is to run an experiment for a week. Track your feelings and mental thoughts versus gut feelings about people, decisions, and situations. Jot them down, make choices and see what happens and write down the result. You'll start to see a pattern. The heart knows.

Wednesday Winning - Gigi Yogini

I'm so honored to introduce to you Brigitte Kouba, also known as Gigi Yogini. I met Gigi through a mutual friend and I am blessed to facilitate Breath Work classes in her studio. When I first met Gigi I felt her power and palpable energy immediately. She is a true powerhouse - the mother of one-year-old twins, a yoga business owner, a contributor to Elephant Journal and Mind Green Body, holds a masters degree in Communication and also provides marketing consultation services. As a force in the world, Gigi not only teaches yoga and celebrates her work as a positive body image advocate, but she runs women's circles and leadership training. After getting to know Gigi, we discovered we both attended the Wisdom Women annual gathering at Esalen in Big Sur this past January and share a common intention to uplift fellow female visionaries. I hope you enjoy Gigi as much as I do. 

How does spirituality impact your business?

I allow myself to feel connected to an infinite source and trust that it, The Universe, has my back. I show up at work to be a channel for the Highest Good to be done through me. I trust. I serve. 

What was the inspiration for your business?

The main inspiration for my business is to live a good life filled with purpose. I have always been inspired to fulfill my dharma and continue to seek self-actualization.

More specifically, I've always felt drawn to the mental/physical health and wellness industries having been raised as a Catholic, an athlete and a community leader since childhood. Through high school and college, I studied a lot of religion, music, and arts while excelling at athletics, yoga, outdoor adventures, and youth leadership. I received a Masters in Communication while working for a nonprofit organization and trying to figure out how to run a profitable and successful business that makes the world a better place.

I had a steady job for a little while and had lots of side hustle. I worked nights and weekends teaching yoga, volunteering, working with kids, teaching after-school yoga, and all of that eventually took over and became the entire hustle. I teach yoga AND I continue to make money as a consultant, media producer, spokesperson, and mentor. I learned how to receive the financial abundance as a payment for sharing my skills and expertise.

How do you stay motivated being an entrepreneur?

I'm always more motivated when I'm best organized. So I reassess and reorganize everything often. I have brainstorm sessions and collaborations with others. I do my best to look at things from a new and different perspective. I like to "talk it out" with others. I get advice from my business mentors. I seek guidance. I meditate. I exercise. I pray.

What would you tell the younger you?

Keep making the best decisions you can. You know what you're doing! You're on the right track. Keep traveling. You'll never regret it.

How do you balance personal and professional commitments?

First of all, I make fewer commitments. Secondly, I have a very specific schedule for my work days and my family days. I fully commit to business on my work days and I'm totally present with my kids on family days. I prioritize AND surrender.

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

I have to overcome a deep, deep sadness in my heart on a daily basis. 

What project are you most excited about right now?

My upcoming Women's Leadership Training. It's the work I live for! 

Wednesday Winning - Liz White

I am excited to introduce you to Liz White of Linea Mae. Liz is located in Brooklyn, NY and works with business owners through design partnerships and strategic coaching. I connected with Liz over Instagram and was immediately drawn and inspired by her clean and fresh feed as well as her powerful FREE offerings. Through her Inner Circle she sends out new business tools, resources, and tips every week. Not to mention gives free access directly to her in her weekly Friday coffee chats, which are exclusively available to her Inner Circle members. Liz is smart, beautiful, successful and down to earth. Read more to learn and connect with Liz.

How does spirituality impact your business?

As part of my daily routine I do tarot readings and I am beginning to work in meditation. I think it’s all about finding how you take care of yourself so that your business doesn’t completely take over your life (which it easily can).

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business?

Ups and downs are a constant, but I always remind myself that the life I’m living is made possible through owning my own business. It isn’t easy, but I also can’t imagine going back to a corporate 9-5 job now that I’ve been able to have such incredible flexibility in my day-to-day.

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

Listen to your body. Stress manifests in many ways and it’s important to see where it shows up for you. I tried to ignore the toll stress was taking on me and it left me with a lot of healing that I had to address (and continue to work on).

Don’t be afraid to change what isn’t working. If something isn’t working you can 100% throw it in the trash, call it a failure, and then figure out your next steps. It is much better to admit when something isn’t right than try to ignore it and hope it works itself out. Of course it doesn’t feel good in the moment, but businesses evolve and you need to be flexible and allow yourself to let go of what isn’t working.

How do you balance your clients, professional projects and personal commitments?

I’m glued to my calendar. My calendar has everything on it and without it I would easily lose track of when things were happening. Having a good client management system is also crucial. I use Dubsado, and the way it allows me to automate my client process has lifted a very heavy weight off my shoulders. I used to stress out about sending invoices/contracts/forms and now it’s one of the easiest parts of the process for me.

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

The biggest challenge I faced was making the decision to change my services, and evolve the offerings that I have for my clients based on what they were wanting (instead of what I thought they needed). I needed to niche down and that process was difficult in the beginning. You think that you need to be able to do everything for everyone in the beginning, but that’s the worst thing you could try to do.

What project are you most excited about right now?

I’m developing more strategic coaching packages for Linea Mae, which I am really excited to be able to offer. Because each of my clients have their own unique roadblocks, sometimes one session isn’t going to be able to tackle everything that they need help with. What I’ll be coming out with will provide that strategic foundation and structured accountability that business owners often need as they’re working on their business.

How to Make The Most Your Menstrual Cycle

Photo: Molly Marler

Photo: Molly Marler

Aunt Flo. Your Period. Living Hell. Dot. The Storm. Shark Week. Red Wedding. Time of Sorrows. I'm All Woman. Oh fuck. Red Wedding. Menstrual cycle. Red Headed Cousin. Blood. Ragging. Moon cycle. Menses. That Time of the Month. This is what women and men called a menstrual cycle when I posed the question on Facebook. The actual word “menstruation” comes from the Greek root word “men,” which means month, and “menus,” which means both moon and power. In ancient times, women aligned with one another, their moon cycles and the lunar energy.

Do you feel like you have mastery of your menstrual cycle? Or do you feel like you are a victim to the waves of your periods?

Do you feel empowered in all phases of your cycle? Or do you find yourself constantly apologizing? 

Do you make the most of each phase of your cycle? Or do you feel like you have one good week out of the month? 

I've been talking, listening and gathering information from other women about menstrual cycles for several years. As a woman who never had periods, and once I did had irregular cycles and felt chaotic, I never truly understood or celebrated the power of my cycle and blood. Until recently. 

Let's jump back to my first encounter with premenstrual outrage. I was ten years old and my 14-year-old sister and was angry, sad, crying, as well as extremely short and snappy. I was scared of her and perplexed - what happened to my sister, where did she go? I asked my mom what was wrong and she explained that my sister's behavior was "hormonal", it was a part of being a woman and my sister's period was coming. I distinctly remember telling myself, "If that is what being a woman is like then I never want to be that kind of woman". Be careful what you wish for because the mind and subconscious are a powerful thing.

So, for years, I didn't have a period. At first, it was great. I played sports in middle, high school and college and was never inconvenienced with cramps like my teammates. I swam all summer without worry about a tampon string or pad peeking out from my bikini. It wasn't until I was in college that I realized something was different - I wasn't having a cycle like everyone else - and I started feeling different, alone and left out. Through some spiritual work, I discovered that my body was manifesting that wish to never experience what my sister had years prior. (Read more on my blog about my journey with PCOS and How Creativity Heals) 

So, after a long journey, I am talking years, of learning about how it felt to not have a period, desperately want a period and finally heal my mind and body to menstruate, I came to the conclusion that it was time to empower myself once and for all. It was time to heal the relationship with my blood and cherish as if it were gold. For the past two years, I've been practicing a myriad of methods and rituals to shift the relationship with my blood from one of resentment to celebration. In doing so, I've noticed that my pre-menstrual symptoms have subsided, each week of the month has its own purpose, and my cycle brings value into my personal, professional, creative and financial life. 

Exercising During Your Cycle

Our society has become very workout focused and masculinized. We as women assume we should be doing the same activities and workouts during each week of our cycle. Here's how to approach each week emotionally and physically in support of your cycle.   

Week One - From day 1 to day 7 is the beginning of bleeding, the feminine quarter. It is a time to be quiet and listen to your womb. Make space in your life to set intentions for the month ahead, as if you are planting seeds in your womb. Your bleeding is making space for new beginnings. Exercise includes light walking and easy yoga. 

Week Two - From day 8 to day 14 is the preparatory phase, ready to receive. It is vital to set intentions, set goals, to be clear about your values. Exercise includes high energy activities such as dancing and sports. 

Week Three - From day 15 to 21 is the ovulation phase, with the possibility for new life to appear through conception or thoughts and ideas. Exercise includes anything with a sensual energy - making love, dancing, salsa, and tango.

Observe your body and this concept from month to month - how we feel during ovulation predetermines how we will feel premenstrually and during our bleeding. If we feel elated during ovulation, then our pre and menstrual cycle tend to be less symptomatic. If we feel depleted during ovulation, then our pre and menstrual cycle tend to be more symptomatic. 

Week Four - From day 22 to 28 is the phase where we meet ourselves at the threshold. It is during this time that our egg becomes fertilized or dies. Exercise includes getting aggressions out through kickboxing, active yoga, running, swimming, surfing, cycling. 

2. Rituals To Support Your Cycle

There are a plethora of rituals that bring consciousness, love, and celebration to bleeding.

Moon Circles

Engaging in Full and New Moon Circles with a tribe of women from month to month is extremely nurturing to our emotional and physical bodies. Rituals during the circles include singing, dancing, drumming, burning sage, palo santo, bringing a sacred item to the circle, calling in the four directions, appreciating the elements, reviewing the previous month, releasing what no longer serves us, setting an intention for the month ahead, and invoking the Goddesses. Historically women who lived in close physical contact, emotional connection, and spiritual alignment would bleed together. When women collectively celebrate the phases of their cycle, they empower themselves and one another. To join one of my circles, visit https://gwencoach.acuityscheduling.com/

Schedule Down Time

We pressure ourselves as women to keep going from day to day like men but we are not men! We are women. We are different. We are powerful. The expansive emotional capacity we have for self-introspection, compassion for others, to die and rebirth on a monthly basis is mystical and electrifying. Make time for yourself and your magic.

Put Pen to Paper

There is something so cathartic about putting pen to paper and watching our thoughts, ideas, revelations pour from our hand onto paper. I can not emphasize journaling enough, especially in this age of technology.

Eat According to Your Cycle

Alisa Vitti, author of Woman Code educates women on the foods to eat during each week of their cycle as hormone levels go up and down. Eating according to your cycle will give you more energy, emotional stability, and harness mood swings.

Week One - Bleeding - Your hormone levels go down during your bleeding so you want to include foods rich in fatty acids (salmon, avocado) to keep moods stable. Root veggies (sweet potatoes, pumpkin, carrots, and beets) provide vitamin A to support your liver in processing estrogen.

Week Two - Follicular - Estrogen rises during this phase, therefore, eating prebiotics and fermented foods (sauerkraut, kimchi) as well as sprouted foods (bean sprouts and broccoli sprouts) help break down and metabolize estrogen.

Week Three  - Ovulation - Estrogen surges, even more so this week, so you'll want to eat foods that move the hormone out of your body. Antioxidants and fiber such as raw juices, fruits, and sulfur-rich veggies support your liver in receiving enough glutathione. 

Week Four - Luteal - Progesterone and estrogen surges and brings on premenstrual swings. By eating foods rich in Vitamin-B (quinoa, buckwheat) you support your brain in producing serotonin. When you eat foods rich in magnesium and calcium (leafy greens) it helps regulate hormones and move them out of the body. 

3. Know Your Blood

According to recent research, the uterine lining, or endometrium, which is shed during a menstrual cycle, is a rich source of adult stem cells and scientists have discovered stem cells in menstrual blood. In ancient times, menstrual blood was known to "cure disease" and was called the "fountain of life" for skin care. Modern medicine and some spa's use a topical application of stem cells on the skin, face, scalp because it's been discovered to bring new life to aging skin. There is a movement of women who use their blood in facials and masks to improve fine lines and wrinkles. I'm one of these women and I'm just saying...its free and I've noticed a big difference. 

4. Reclaim Your Pussy

Organizations and books centered on women reclaiming their pussy (Regena Thomashauer of Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts), embracing their womb (Giuditta Tornetta of Joy In Birthing Organization) and celebrating their blood (books such as The Red Tent, Her Blood Is Gold and more) are shedding light onto something we, as women (and men), have been missing for thousands of years.

Our uterus and vagina grow and birth new life. We love pleasure in the forms of beauty and we have an organ, the clitoris, that has no purpose other than for pleasure. It's time we reclaim clitoracy and pleasure in all forms as our birthright. Let's empower ourselves through our blood the way our ancestors did, versus despise and resent it the way women are taught to in the current day. 

5. Use Blood for Growth

Historically women bled on hay and then dispersed the hay to their farms. Most modern farmers and botanists will admit they use "vitamins" to grow their food. Typically these vitamins are fertilizers with blood meal from slaughtered animals because blood is protein and nitrogen dense.

I know I am going way off the grid here but stay with me. By using your own blood to fertilize your plants you are winning in two ways:  

Sustainability - According to Dr. Joseph Mercola, a woman will use (and waste) 16,800 tampons in her lifetime - or as many as 24,360 if she’s on estrogen replacement therapy. Tampons and pads are made with toxic materials that are cancer causing and prevent appropriate air flow to your most precious organ. 

Superfood Health - Your blood communicates with soil and infuses plants with the nutrients that your body is missing and needs to thrive. By diluting blood with water and using as a fertilizer, you are turning your veggies and fruits into superfoods specifically designed for you. If you experiment with this concept be sure to dilute with water in a 10:1 ratio. 

To learn more about sustainable ways of collecting your blood purchase a DivaCup, MoonCup or Sustainable Moon Pads.

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Since I have been exercising, eating, bringing rituals into my daily life, healing trauma related to my body, and instituting radical self-care, my premenstrual symptoms have disappeared and my bleeding has shortened and lightened. I am sure there are many more forms of celebrating your gold so I look forward to hearing your best practices, funniest experiences from applying these tips, as well as your new perspective on being a woman who bleeds.