Get Wild, Get Naked, Get Free

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I took one of my coaching client's on a private retreat this weekend to the peaceful land of Lake Hemet in Idyllwild, California. This retreat was not something I conjured up in a meditation, vision board or business strategy session for the projection. This retreat was not something I advertised. Instead it came forward as an intuition, or pull that I felt deep inside. It kept coming over and over again as I cleared my inbox, posted Instagram stories and met with clients. Each time it swirled around I found myself speaking to "it", saying, "Yes, okay, show me more." I went to bed with no clear vision, no action steps. 

The next day the message kept coming and each time, although my old self who was mired in a corporate and research approach to take ideas into fierce planning, I danced with the retreat and allowed myself to feel into how it would BE to retreat into the wild.

During a Breathwork class that evening, one of the students, who was a former coaching client, had a deep, out of body experience. Whether you want to call it a past life, as I witnessed her Breathwork experience, I heard a voice inside say, "I need to return to the wild, I need to get free." After class she approached me and said, "I need you to take me out into the wild." 

Several weeks later, we found ourselves camping by the lake, finding solace in only one sound - the chirping birds, watching the Milky Way rotate right before our eyes, allowing the fire to take our inner ash, the new moon sky ushering us from us from dusk to night, laying nude in the sun and surrendering into spirit.

This woman is a person who lives so spiritually, so deeply, so joyfully.  Yet during our coaching, healing and meditations, she realized despite all of her beautiful moments of beauty and truth, there was still a lifetime of miniature withholdings in the nooks and crevices of her life. From the space of seeing this she made a in-spired commitment to no longer live that way. Instead she was going to live a life of of saying yes when everything inside screams fearful no's because of perceived rejection, abandonment, failure or shoulds.

The energy was palpable and what became clear to me since we returned is that wanting to get wild and get free is awesome. It is your soul calling and texting to you. It is a beckoning for you to peel back the layers of protection into total surrender, into a love we've never known, into a life of out-of-your-mind choices and actions. It's there that we ARE wild and free.  

So, do you have a calling to go out into the wild? To find a place of silence and quiet, where nature has your attention to speak to you? If so, let's talk. 

If you already have answered the call, where do you feel most wild and free?  When do you feel most naked and free? What can you do to bring that essence into your daily life, hour by hour? 

Wednesday Winning - Janet Neal

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Today we are featuring an amazing mentor to me, Janet Neal. I met Janet 12 years ago in the Spiritual Psychology Masters Degree at The University of Santa Monica. Janet has made such an impact on my life, both personally and professionally, as an entrepreneur, a coach, an author, a speaker, a wife and mother. Janet's mission is to support women in becoming a Superbwoman - one who is comfortable in her own skin, has taken the time to understand her strengths, values, gifts and passions and has aligned her life to enable them to be used to do amazing things for the betterment of all. Janet is the very proud mother of three amazing young adults. 

 

What happened or inspired you to start your business? 

Which one! My initial business was started when I realized both a) my soul was suffering in my corporate job and b) I had a vision and gifts to use to help others who were feeling the same. This current iteration, The Superbwoman, was begun when I was realizing it was time to get back to honoring myself (after having to close the doors on my beloved Professional Women’s Center three years earlier). I looked around to see what was happening in the world and came up with three realizations: 1) The world is a mess, 2) Women have the power to change the world in an instant…when we realize it, and 3) I can help women realize how innately powerful they are. 

 

How does spirituality impact your business? 

I use a very holistic approach to life and business and bring that into everything I do. 

 

How do you stay motivated through the ups and downs of owning your own business? 

Surround yourself with good people. Make sure that you are taking time for yourself. Be very clear about your long-term and short-term goals and stay focused. And trust that you are being guided.

 

What would you tell the younger you just starting her business?

You can do this! Just keep going...

 

How do you balance your clients, professional projects and personal commitments?

Very well. I have learned how to prioritize what is truly important to me. I have learned not to overbook myself and on those days when it can’t be avoided, I make sure to find quiet time to unwind a bit. 

 

What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome?

The initial biggest challenge was leaving my corporate job to start an entrepreneurial venture…when I had NO support at home. No one in my family thought it was a good idea, except me. It was the biggest lesson in trusting my gut and believing that the Universe had my back. The second biggest challenge was coming back from the “failure” of my Women’s Center, which I had to close due to the recession and not being able to get investors at the time to see me through the second year of operation. Again, the Universe had my back and I was offered two different jobs with friends that gave me the safety net I needed while I grieved the loss of that dream. It took me three years, but I needed that time and came back even stronger. 

 

What project are you most excited about right now?

My second book, The Superbwoman, comes out in January. It’s a parable, the story of a stressed out single working mom who sees a media icon who seems to have it all and she goes on a journey to figure out how she does it. It’s the stories and the wisdom she gets from the women she meets on her path. I am so excited to bring this message of hope and strength to so many more women out there who so need it! We’ve got this! To learn more visit Janet's website: http://www.janetmneal.com/ to learn more about her first book, her speaking and coaching. 

Are You Struggling? Remember This...

 

This post is for those out there who are struggling. Please remember that no one ever has it together all the time - not even me, "the coach", despite what the photos or social media feeds say, or whatever stories you might make up about me. When we are in a human body and a human life, it's normal to have moments of struggle. It's okay to struggle. And it's possible to find your way out of the struggle. Trust me - I know. 

I've struggled within my marriage at times, feeling disconnected and unsure of how we will come back to one another. I've struggled with being a single parent, a blended family parent, and a co-parent with custody issues and wanting what's best for my child. I've struggled with several auto immune diseases throughout my life and deeply desiring health and well-being. I've struggled with professional risks and leaps because I need to be an equal contributor to my family. 

And despite these struggles, I've always found a way through to the other side. 

1. Have people who love and support you.

This can come in the form of friends, family, therapists, coaches, mentors, healers, or even strangers from religious or non-religious groups. Make sure you surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally, remind you of your intention, and that this will pass. Ask them for their support. Don't take it personally if they don't have the emotional ability or physical space to give you what you need at the time you need it. Move forward and find someone who does - even if you have to pay for it. 

2. Find supportive ways to process what's happening inside of you

Along with finding gentle support, discern and steer clear of things that you know don't support you. It's taken some experimentation for me to discover my sweet spot of what that means for me, and new ways are always evolving. Things that are not good for me personally when I'm down (even if they taste oh so good) - checking out with abrasive television or toxic movies, harsh or depressing music, sugar and processed foods, too much time alone, over scheduling my days. Things that are good for me when I'm good, and even better when I'm not so good - prayer and meditation, booking appointments with my healers, exercising, spending time in nature, attending my moon circles, writing daily, Breathwork, uplifting and calm music, healthy food, creating space in my calendar. When you are struggling, doing self supporting activities is even more important than when you are feeling on top. 

3. Ask - What am I meant to learn?

Asking this question serves two purposes. First, it gives the struggle a greater purpose. Second, it allows you to be an owner (versus a victim). When you have greater purpose to your struggle it inspires you to find a way to the other side. Because once you are on the other side of it, you will be able to share your experience, strength and hope with someone else who is struggling.

When I ask myself what I am meant to learn, it allows me to own the experience, be an empowered part of the resolution, versus being a victim.  I am almost always able to see the learning. And most of the time, whatever I've struggled with and overcome, I get to share my experience, strength and hope with another person who is struggling.

4. Be vigilant with your mind

When I reflect on my life, and the clients I've coached, the only way to move through struggle is to be vigilant with your mind. Your mind will attempt to tell you all kinds of stories. Its important to keep your mind strong and keep it fed with healthy thoughts. 

5. Make a commitment

When you make a commitment to achieve something no matter what, whatever struggles or obstacles you face are just bumps along the journey. When you get clear on your commitments, everything becomes more graceful.

Don't fret - struggle is part of the path. What matters most is that you have a clear commitment, keep your mind healthy, shower yourself with loving friends and support systems and remember to ask yourself the deeper question - why are you experiencing this particular struggle and what is your soul wanting you to learn. 

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